firehawk2009
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I believe its important to give a little bit of background on myself so I can at least try to get a reasonable response and hope you can help.
I am a professional person, multiple careers, won awards and have my own business setup. I am a university graduate, have a strong religious and background upbringing, always treat people with respect and decency but also I am a very positive person, a free spirit if you will.
I dont do drugs, drink, smoke or sleep around - thats not me at all.
I am in an unfortunate situation which involves the love of my life. she unfortunately took something very small and blew it way out of propertion.
the relationship ended in such a tragic and dramatic manner and I am still coming to terms with it but it is very difficult.
she accused me of something so horrid that it is not true. (sexual assault).
this did not happen at all.
In her statement, she stated that I groped her breasts, rubbed her on the sides, then kissed her on the back even though she was saying to met "get off" but all on top of the clothes with no injuries.
this was absolutely not true.
it was a time of uncertainty as she was playing around, telling me one thing, doing something else etc... etc.... and wanted to find out what was going on as on that same week she had told me she loves me, misses me, wants to meet up etc... etc....
we hadnt seen or spoke much to each other in this month.
Now, there were people there however they did NOT witness anything as we were in the kitchen to which she agreed.
at this time, there was 1 person who made a statement (her friend) but admittedly said that she saw nothing.
2.5 weeks later now, another friend who was present but did not see or say anything at all, made a statement and so did her husband.
SUCH LIES! And it hurts so much listening to it and reading it, let alone reading my ex partners statement.
I am very worried, scared and cannot eat, sleep or breathe properly. food does not taste the same without her.
we were planning to get married as well - gave her an eternity ring a few weeks before this "incident". i had done so much for her (supported her through her health problems she had, eldest child acting up, her ex husband putting her down over the phone, lending her money to stop an eviction that was going to take place which i havent had anything back yet!)
Then this. it makes no sense at all.
Now, I am taking this to the crown court for a trial however, I am at such a loss that I dont know how to plan my defence. its basically her word against mine, but also now 2 other people made a statement, they did not see anything but said things like "called emergency services, heard a banging noise" etc... etc... but the ex did not state anything about banging noises - because there was none anyway!
there seems to be alot of inconsistances in the statements given, and I am just sick and frustrated about all of this.
She also said the relationship ended over a month before this and I had been "harrasing" her by ringing her/texting her. this was not true at all! I even have the emails saved that she knows I am not a bad person at all, and that she loves me and wants me and also that when things had blown up that she would have ended it but didnt because she loves me and knows that i did nothing wrong.
all of this, 2/3 weeks before this allegation/incident, yet in her statement said it ended over a month before. not true!
Now, she has a past of people cheating on her and being in an abusive relationship with her ex husband. however we always talked about this, being open and honest and become very close with each other and hurts so much that this has been adding more fuel to the fire by her controlling friends.
i dont know what to say or how to start getting together a solid defence.
she also threw a metal can at me at one point a while back, as we were winding each other up (playing)... but that was uncalled for - overreaction!
any ideas or thoughts? I really would appreciate it. I am not like this at all, and have a clean record and wish for it to remain that way. But also can get character references.
I am a professional person, multiple careers, won awards and have my own business setup. I am a university graduate, have a strong religious and background upbringing, always treat people with respect and decency but also I am a very positive person, a free spirit if you will.
I dont do drugs, drink, smoke or sleep around - thats not me at all.
I am in an unfortunate situation which involves the love of my life. she unfortunately took something very small and blew it way out of propertion.
the relationship ended in such a tragic and dramatic manner and I am still coming to terms with it but it is very difficult.
she accused me of something so horrid that it is not true. (sexual assault).
this did not happen at all.
In her statement, she stated that I groped her breasts, rubbed her on the sides, then kissed her on the back even though she was saying to met "get off" but all on top of the clothes with no injuries.
this was absolutely not true.
it was a time of uncertainty as she was playing around, telling me one thing, doing something else etc... etc.... and wanted to find out what was going on as on that same week she had told me she loves me, misses me, wants to meet up etc... etc....
we hadnt seen or spoke much to each other in this month.
Now, there were people there however they did NOT witness anything as we were in the kitchen to which she agreed.
at this time, there was 1 person who made a statement (her friend) but admittedly said that she saw nothing.
2.5 weeks later now, another friend who was present but did not see or say anything at all, made a statement and so did her husband.
SUCH LIES! And it hurts so much listening to it and reading it, let alone reading my ex partners statement.
I am very worried, scared and cannot eat, sleep or breathe properly. food does not taste the same without her.
we were planning to get married as well - gave her an eternity ring a few weeks before this "incident". i had done so much for her (supported her through her health problems she had, eldest child acting up, her ex husband putting her down over the phone, lending her money to stop an eviction that was going to take place which i havent had anything back yet!)
Then this. it makes no sense at all.
Now, I am taking this to the crown court for a trial however, I am at such a loss that I dont know how to plan my defence. its basically her word against mine, but also now 2 other people made a statement, they did not see anything but said things like "called emergency services, heard a banging noise" etc... etc... but the ex did not state anything about banging noises - because there was none anyway!
there seems to be alot of inconsistances in the statements given, and I am just sick and frustrated about all of this.
She also said the relationship ended over a month before this and I had been "harrasing" her by ringing her/texting her. this was not true at all! I even have the emails saved that she knows I am not a bad person at all, and that she loves me and wants me and also that when things had blown up that she would have ended it but didnt because she loves me and knows that i did nothing wrong.
all of this, 2/3 weeks before this allegation/incident, yet in her statement said it ended over a month before. not true!
Now, she has a past of people cheating on her and being in an abusive relationship with her ex husband. however we always talked about this, being open and honest and become very close with each other and hurts so much that this has been adding more fuel to the fire by her controlling friends.
i dont know what to say or how to start getting together a solid defence.
she also threw a metal can at me at one point a while back, as we were winding each other up (playing)... but that was uncalled for - overreaction!
any ideas or thoughts? I really would appreciate it. I am not like this at all, and have a clean record and wish for it to remain that way. But also can get character references.