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Together 18 yrs., married 16 yrs. next mth. Found out two yrs. ago that my Husband is gay & in closet. Problem we have No! assets (house, cars,) just personal items. When I found out about my husbands sex orientation, I left him for 16 mths. & started a Legal Separation in the community I had been living in Northern, Calif., never completed it, which I started I believe Jan. 2008.Returned to Hawaii Feb. 12 2008. At present my husband & I got back together & we live in Hawaii. He had hip-surgery July 29th & is home at present time recovering. (I'm the wife & care-taker). Problem is he says were re-tiring, but I'm scared to trust this man regarding I found a Debit card in his wallet, which I drove all the way to Hono. to use this card & find out what my husband had in this acct. The machine ate the card, so I came home & told my husband what I did. Which he claims is a savings acct. that he told me about, (I know about savings Not! checking act.) any way can I get in trouble for this? Also whats the best way to divide pension, alimony, should I proceed with legal separation, even tho its been 8 mths.? I'm 55, & my husband is 63 & retiring, should I wait until he retires before I proceed with legal proceedings, or should I start paper work now, while were together?