Recent content by VindictiveV

Why didn't I get neutered? Is that a serious question? Nobody knows until they go through it. You don't decide to have children with this stuff in mind...the relationship falls apart for whatever reason much later. If you think my original comment was a complaint about spending money, you...

...except that what I stated is exactly what the lawyer and magistrate explained to us in the court. We both have equal custody and I have "residential" custody (which only determines what school system she goes into). So do explain, if there is no bias, how I pay 17% of my gross income--and...

Claiming NY has a gender issue based on the experience of any male who has come into contact with family courts is not making it a "gender" issue...it's stating a fact based on an institutional flaw. It's certainly an issue when males are treated differently (or women respectively). To be...

My ex and I wanted to settle for less because we both have decent paying jobs. NY wouldn't allow it. 17% is the minimum for one dependent, so I believe I answered the OP's question. In other words, it doesn't matter what the parents agree to, the state sets the stage. So here we are, and she...

Here in NY we pay a set percent of gross income (including disability, retirement, and veterans benefits) depending on how many children you have. I pay 17% gross in child support DESPITE the fact that her mother and I have joint custody and her mother is gainfully employed at a well-paying...