You can do a google search & get all kinds of info on civil demands & whether to pay or not pay. (your decision) You can also do a google search on civil demands in your state of Iowa.
It is generally suggested you pay to fend off further consequences of your stealing.
In order to get emancipated, you have to be able to support yourself which doesn't seem to be the case here. As adjusterjack asked, when will you turn 18? When you are 18, you can leave home & live where you wish.
Your post is not real clear - do you have a specific question? Why would your friend believe she will be/might be wrongfully terminated?
If you are looking for a lawyer, follow cbg's advice above. We do have a link above under lawyers that might help you locate a lawyer in your area.
Most surely/likely you will be terminated. You need to look for other employment. If you are terminated, you can file for unemployment ins. but there is a good chance you will not receive it (state's decision though).
If you are contacted by the police, keep quiet & get a lawyer.