broken engagement

[al5252]

I was engaged to my ex for 8 months. We had our engagement party and I was all set to move to Washington, D.C. I was moving down there to be with her because she had been accepted to Howard Medical School and was already down there. I had just accepted a position at a Charter school in D.C. and we had for an apartment for rent. Little did I know she was talking to another man and had told him she loved him. She had gone out on dates with him and even spent the night with him a few times a month before I was moving down there. We had been fighting and this guy was her shoulder to cry on. When I went down we had a fight. Her sister was spending the weekend with us so I was not ready for what was going to happen. When the sister left, after my first day of work she had informed me that she did not want to marry me or even be with me. She sent out a 6 page letter to my mother and her mother siting all the reason for the break up. She never told me about the other guy, I found out while her computer was on in the apartment about 2 weeks after our break up. We had lived together for 2 months and all she did was torture me. She would act like she loved me one minute and then go out with this guy the next. She even went as far as to tell me that she did not need me down there anymore. I tried to straighten things out but she kept telling me she did not want to be with me anymore. She said it had nothing to do with the guy, but yet she cried to me about how he did not want her one night. She even wrote him a love letter, which I have a copy of. She left me no choice but to quit my job in D.C. and move back home with my parents. I have been out of work for 5 months now because I can find work. I had quit two jobs due to this girl and yet nothing in her life was effected. She is now with this guy after throwing herself at him while I was living with her. She watched as I did house work, cooked for us, shopped for us, ironed our clothes and took care of her. I was trying to win her back thinking that was all it was, but really she was just living up life as I did this. I have lost 40 lbs. due to this, am not in therapy for my mental state, take anti-depresents, and have no job. I lost all benefits and can not find means to live off of. Do I have a case? I want for her to pay me for lost wages at the jobs that I quit. I was working as a teacher assistant in Passaic, New Jersey before I quit to go down to D.C. Her parents even said that we should try to work things out because I was there already. She would play with my emotions and keep me on a yo-yo string of emotions. I have suffered from emotional and psychological trauma as well as lose of wages. We were set to get married this coming August and had even booked the place and church for the wedding. Her parents did not cancel the wedding until I moved home thinking that we would work things out. She never even told her parents about the other guy. She also sent an e-mail I sent to her the day before I was going down to 11 of her friends and her parents. Inside the e-mail I had wrote some mean things that I was feeling but did not mean them. She sent it out trying to show people the person I was and how horrible I had treated her. I had bent over backwards for her while we were together and people did not believe what happened because of how in love we seemed when we were together. She deceived me, her family and my family. If I could not get wages back, could I receive anything from her financially or find a way to get her student loan taken from her? I know that sounds mean, but at this point I feel that my life was so screwed up by her actions that I feel she deserves some kind of screwing back. Let me know. I am serious about this lawsuit and have the funds in an account that I had set up to by a home with her when I felt the time was right. She even mentioned to me how she wanted to be pregnant in her 3rd year of med school and could not wait to have children with me. Also, since our break up she will tell me how much love I have to offer, what kind of father I will be and how much of a great husband I will be one day, but not with her. She was set to get married to this new guy as soon as I left because he had told her she should marry her while were engaged. Could I maybe include him in a law suit or a separate suit if possible as well? I have been so fed up and angry recently because I am 28 years old and I now live in a small bedroom in my parents house because I had moved from my apartment so that I could save some money for our life together in D.C. She did not even sleep in the same bed as me or room. She let me give up my job and had no regard for my future. She has since gone on trips with her friends, goes out all the time, and is having the time of her life while I try to save up money to help pay for me to get my teaching certification because I do not qualify for loans. I also feel shame to be around my friends because of what happened and I have been extremely depressed. She does not want me back ever but yet she will tell me she wants my happiness and that I have so much love to offer. I am fed up. Help me out please

 

[irish223]

Your post is very difficult to read, and I'm not sure what your questions are. However, if you want to sue her for leaving your job and your apartment, I don't think you can.

You could have stayed in the apartment, even though it may have been intolerable for you. It was your choice to leave. You also chose to quit your job.

I understand your reasons, but I believe your choices create no liability for your ex-fiancee.