California. Does a notorized contract supercede to court order?

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I currently have joint custody of my daughter. Her mother wants to move out of state and give me full custody of the child while she attends school for the next ~3 years. I plan to have this written into a court order to state that I will have sole physical and legal custody of the child. My worry is that she wont want to give up her rights to the child and will try to have me sign a "Notorized Contract." I feel this way because she seems to be under the impression that I can be granted sole custody temporarily. Would a notorized contract supercede a court order? If the contract was to state that I am the primary parent for the child for the next some-odd years. I highly doubt this and I feel that the only sure-fire way to make this completely legal would be to have it in the form of a court order. I just want to make sure I have all my ducks in a row. Any advice would be very helpful. I really do want my daughter to be in my full custody. I wouldnt deny her mother the right to see her and talk to her, but it seems silly for her to still be the custodial parent on paper when the child is living with me full time and she is 3,000 miles away. This has not happened yet, but is anticipated to happen in the very near future. If you need me to elaborate on anything, just let me know. This is just a very confusing situation to me. Thank you.
 
Your intuition is correct.

A notarized letter is useless.

It is also trouble brewing for you at some point.

Seek a court order.

Always get a court order.

She's trying to have it both ways.

She's worried about getting custody back when she finishes school.

She's also a crappy parent.

Who gives their kid up for any reason other than failing health.

I went to college and law school, and kept mine.
My first wife had died a year earlier.
I was also in the army at the time.
Get the court order.
You're a great dad!!!!
 
Ahem.

It sometimes takes a DECENT parent to understand and acknowledge that the other parent is perhaps the best place for their child to be. It's not always about "giving the child up" and it's certainly not always selfish. It's often the most SELFLESS act a parent can do.

Or would you say that people who choose adoption are also crappy parents?
 
So is that what we call dead beat dads, they are a decent parent for knowing that the child is better off with the mother. It's such a double standard, if the mom leaves then she's doing what's best for the kids but if dad leaves then he's a horrible father. And fyi people that give up their kids for adoption are not parents to that child, the minute they gave them up they gave up all parental rights. A real parent would NEVER leave their child for 3 years; some people can't cope with being a parent so they walk away, let's call it for what it is, biological mom in this case just can't deal with being a mom and having a personal life.
 
dm1979 said:
So is that what we call dead beat dads, they are a decent parent for knowing that the child is better off with the mother. It's such a double standard, if the mom leaves then she's doing what's best for the kids but if dad leaves then he's a horrible father. And fyi people that give up their kids for adoption are not parents to that child, the minute they gave them up they gave up all parental rights. A real parent would NEVER leave their child for 3 years; some people can't cope with being a parent so they walk away, let's call it for what it is, biological mom in this case just can't deal with being a mom and having a personal life.
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Your agenda is really not appropriate here.
 
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