My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, and she has a child from a previous relationship ( they were never married to each other). The courts ruled in favor of joint custody when they first entered court. She is now trying to obtain sole custody, and we are afraid that we will not win this battle. Can anyone give some advice or some support on this issue. It would mean so so much to me.
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Can anyone help us gain custody??
- Thread Starter Griff0716
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What is the reason she wants sole custody? What exactly does she think it is going to give her? She has to have a good solid reason for wanting it and prove that it is in the childs best interest. The courts are not going to give her sole unless she can prove the child is being abused or neglected. In other words, there needs to be a change of circumstance. What exactly is she wanting to accomplish with this?
We feel that he is not properly being cared for when he is with his father. There are many times that he has came home with brusies, came home sick, dirty, sometimes severe diper rash. Also the father fails to communicate properly with the childs mother. When it is exchange time ( when his father comes to pick up the child) we try and relay everything that we possilbly can ex. he has been sick, he does have diper rash, he fell today and got scratched...etc. In contrast to that when we go and pick the child up, all he says is, "theres your mommy" and pretty much leaves it at that. I know with joint custody things are supposed to be jointly agreed upon by both parties, but we recently were informed that he has enrolled the child in a local daycare without our consent.
First of all there is no "we" or "our" here. You have no rights in this at all. This is between Mom and Dad.
The legal standard of parenting is pretty low. Nothing in your post suggest that the child is being mistreated. As far as daycare, if Dad is paying for it and it is on his time, I am not sure if he needs moms consent. This may be more of an action of contempt, but not a change of custody.
How old is the child? Mom has an uphill battle changing custody. She should address her concerns with Dad and see if she gets anywhere with that.
By you getting involved, you will make things worse because you are not the childs father. I suggest you do your best to stay out of this and let mom and dad deal with it.
The legal standard of parenting is pretty low. Nothing in your post suggest that the child is being mistreated. As far as daycare, if Dad is paying for it and it is on his time, I am not sure if he needs moms consent. This may be more of an action of contempt, but not a change of custody.
How old is the child? Mom has an uphill battle changing custody. She should address her concerns with Dad and see if she gets anywhere with that.
By you getting involved, you will make things worse because you are not the childs father. I suggest you do your best to stay out of this and let mom and dad deal with it.
it doesnt matter how you feel-you are only mom's curent bed buddy, and legally, this is none of your business. dad doesnt need YOUR consent in anything regarding HIS( NOT YOUR) SON. you really need to step back and let mom deal with issues concerning her son, before it causes her problems. you have no rights, say or standing at all.you are a legal stranger.and will be even after you and mom marry
Hon, go back to lovin' Josh and leave the dead threads alone!
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