My jurisdiction is: MD
My jurisdiction is: Md
Hello and thank you for looking at this. My mother has moderate dementia. She appointed my sister as executor for her estate. My sister presented her with a will, and power of attorney, and medical power of attorney docs after she had shown memory loss. My mother signed them. My mother lives in MD, my sister lives in CA. My mother has sizeable assets.
I live in Md and stayed near my parents to care for them. I helped my father until he passed, and was prepared to do so for my mother.
My mother had been living at her home and had the help of a day time caregiver. I had been discussing modifications in her care with my sister, thinking we could work together on this.
My mother came down with a uti and went into the hospital. My sister then moved moved her from the hostpital to an assisted living arrangement. I was not informed until after arrangements were made. My mother specifically asked to go back home. She has the money pay for care for herself.
My sister contacted both of her doctors and got letters of incompetence and is refusing for her to go home, saying it is not the right place for her. My mother now sits in her room with her head in her hands most of the day. I do not see after many visits how the care or arrangement is better than at home. My sister insists it is( i.e. cheaper by 2 k a month- not an issue for my mother to afford), she also likes the management there saying it is better.
My jurisdiction is: Md
Hello and thank you for looking at this. My mother has moderate dementia. She appointed my sister as executor for her estate. My sister presented her with a will, and power of attorney, and medical power of attorney docs after she had shown memory loss. My mother signed them. My mother lives in MD, my sister lives in CA. My mother has sizeable assets.
I live in Md and stayed near my parents to care for them. I helped my father until he passed, and was prepared to do so for my mother.
My mother had been living at her home and had the help of a day time caregiver. I had been discussing modifications in her care with my sister, thinking we could work together on this.
My mother came down with a uti and went into the hospital. My sister then moved moved her from the hostpital to an assisted living arrangement. I was not informed until after arrangements were made. My mother specifically asked to go back home. She has the money pay for care for herself.
My sister contacted both of her doctors and got letters of incompetence and is refusing for her to go home, saying it is not the right place for her. My mother now sits in her room with her head in her hands most of the day. I do not see after many visits how the care or arrangement is better than at home. My sister insists it is( i.e. cheaper by 2 k a month- not an issue for my mother to afford), she also likes the management there saying it is better.
- Am I wrong to want to honor a persons wishes if the same level of care remains?
- Do individuals with a level of dementia have rights?
- Doesnt a my sister have the legal responsibility to respect my mothers wishes and make it so?
- Is there a statute of limitations for this kind of arrangement doing this from accross the country.
- My sister negates every observation I have. She even told the nurse at the facility my mother did not need an antibiotic when she had a lung infection. The infection started to spread, and fortunately I was able to intercede.
I do think my sister has some genuine concern, but this decision is tearing my mother up and I just think it is unfair. Can I do anything on her behalf that will not make me look like the bad guy to them?
