Consumer Law, Warranties Can I take back a cremation urn?

[kimmyjojo2000]

My step son died last year and we had him cremated and his ashes divided into two urns. Both his natural mother and my husband signed the funeral expense contract with the assumption that each party would pay half of the total bill. We have paid all of our half but his mother had paid none of hers and now the funeral home is after us and will be sending the bill to collections if it is not paid by the end of the month. My husband and I would be willing to pay the rest of the bill if we knew we could have the rest of our son back and urn that his ashes are in. Can we legally take back his ashes and the other urn if she has paid nothing for it and we have paid for all of the expenses? Wouldn't it legally be OUR property if we pay for all of it?

 

[army judge]

My step son died last year and we had him cremated and his ashes divided into two urns. Both his natural mother and my husband signed the funeral expense contract with the assumption that each party would pay half of the total bill. We have paid all of our half but his mother had paid none of hers and now the funeral home is after us and will be sending the bill to collections if it is not paid by the end of the month. My husband and I would be willing to pay the rest of the bill if we knew we could have the rest of our son back and urn that his ashes are in. Can we legally take back his ashes and the other urn if she has paid nothing for it and we have paid for all of the expenses? Wouldn't it legally be OUR property if we pay for all of it?

First of all, I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

Death is tough, but time will bring you peace.

By now, do you think his deadbeat mother cares?

If you want the funeral home off YOUR back, pay them.

 

[Antigone]

My step son died last year and we had him cremated and his ashes divided into two urns. Both his natural mother and my husband signed the funeral expense contract with the assumption that each party would pay half of the total bill. We have paid all of our half but his mother had paid none of hers and now the funeral home is after us and will be sending the bill to collections if it is not paid by the end of the month. My husband and I would be willing to pay the rest of the bill if we knew we could have the rest of our son back and urn that his ashes are in. Can we legally take back his ashes and the other urn if she has paid nothing for it and we have paid for all of the expenses? Wouldn't it legally be OUR property if we pay for all of it?

Kimmy ~ I know exactly what you must be feeling. In the last two years, my husband and I had to bury both his sons (18 & 20). With the first son, mom was supposed to go get the cash and come back to pay the 1,000 of the 6,000 bill. The second time she didn't even try, dad paid the whole 6k.

Just pay the bill, forget about the urn. Help your husband get through the pain of losing his son. In the end it is only money and 100% completely replaceable ~ he lost big time and making a big deal of this can only end up hurting him more.