Can I throw out my 25 year old daughter?

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I have a 24 year old stepdaughter. She lives with her mother and I. Her mother and I are at the end of our ideas. We want to throw her out of our house, but do not knnow how to go about it legally. We give her money, and she throws it away on 'I don't know what'. We got her a car, but she cannot make the payments. She has credit cards, but cannot pay them. Creditors call her constantly for money but she won't talk to them to make any arrangements. She had a paid for scholarship for college and failed a class and now owes student loans that she gets calls about, but is unable to pay. Her mother and I are retired and cannot afford to support her any more. She has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and a borderline personality disorder. She lost her job through which she had health insurance, and now we have to buy her meds ($162) per month. If she misses her meds for a day, she gets very aggressive to her mother...yelling, screaming, self mutilation, threats of suicide. She works part time at a coffee shop and gets minumum wage. If she's lucky, she might get 20 hours a week. She will not find more work. She refused to obey house rules: ie, clean up after herself, pick up her room, clean the cat litter, clean the cat poop off the floor. She frequently stays out all night and comes home the next morning, only to sleep until three or four in the afternoon. If she does go to work, she leaves the house five minutes before she has to be at work.
I have briefly looked into having her committed through legal procedures, but am not sure it that's the way to go.
Can I change the locks and tell her to get lost? forever? I firmly believe that she would break into my house if I did something like that.
Her mother and I cannot keep this up. She costs a fortune and will not contribute a dime for her expenses.
Help! Please and thanks.
 
If she gets violent again. Call the police who will investigate and arrest her. Domestic violence will land her filthy tail in jail. Then you go to the JP COURT and get yourselves an ORDER OF PROTECTION.

Barring violence, you Google "eviction YOUR COUNTY, TX" and follow the instructions to evict her.
That requires you to wait about four to ten weeks, depending on how populous the county in which you reside might be, sir.

Alternatively, you can consult the Texas Commission on Aging.

Call 1-800-458-9858 to report suspected abuse or neglect of people who are older or who have disabilities.

Good luck, don't waste anymore time, start today to get that menace out of your lives!!!!

PS: Be careful, she may have a mental illness, but I suspect ILLEGAL drug abuse. If you find drugs, illegal drugs, call "911" immediately, the police will arrive, investigate, and arrest the offender!
 
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If you wanted to you absolutely could throw her out and you could do it right now. You could be rid of her and all her belongings. Nobody can force you to allow her back in.
Doing so is not a criminal act and won't get you in trouble, but does open you to civil liability in which she could potentially bring a lawsuit against you for various damages.
She does not sound like the type that has the means or know how to pursue such an action.
Going through the eviction process will protect you from that civil liability, but if things get really bad you have options.
Consider offering her some money to move out voluntarily. Help her move her property and don't pay her until the move is done. Have her sign a receipt indicating she is moving out willingly and accepts your payment as compensation. This will help you if she later claims to have been thrown out and tries to come back.
You are not helpless here. Do what is best for your family.
You may also want to seek assistance from social services.
 
I am asking this for a reason.

How long ago did she lose her health insurance?
 
Then it's too late for what I had in mind, though there may be one more opportunity for it.

It's a short term solution for only one of the issues above, but since she is still under 26, you have the option of carrying her on your health insurance, which may well be less expensive than $162 a month for her medications. Most if not all employer-sponsored plans (if that is indeed what yours is) will cover step children, and if your coverage is through your wife that's even easier. However, you would have had to have added her within 30 days of the date her insurance ended. If there is another open enrollment period between now and when she turns 26, you can add her at that time, if you do the math and it is cheaper to include her. She does not have to be living with you; she does not have to be a student; she does not have to be a tax dependent. Under the new health care reform laws, if she is under 26 she can be under her parents' health care even if she is married. At 26 she will have to come off, but it may be a few months respite anyway.
 
TX is very lax on the requirements for a restraining order if you are willing to taint her record for life to get her out fast.
 
cbg said:
Then it's too late for what I had in mind, though there may be one more opportunity for it.

It's a short term solution for only one of the issues above, but since she is still under 26, you have the option of carrying her on your health insurance, which may well be less expensive than $162 a month for her medications. Most if not all employer-sponsored plans (if that is indeed what yours is) will cover step children, and if your coverage is through your wife that's even easier. However, you would have had to have added her within 30 days of the date her insurance ended. If there is another open enrollment period between now and when she turns 26, you can add her at that time, if you do the math and it is cheaper to include her. She does not have to be living with you; she does not have to be a student; she does not have to be a tax dependent. Under the new health care reform laws, if she is under 26 she can be under her parents' health care even if she is married. At 26 she will have to come off, but it may be a few months respite anyway.
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I had not thought of that. My wife has insurance through her retirement program. I'll look into it...thank you.
 
disagreeable said:
TX is very lax on the requirements for a restraining order if you are willing to taint her record for life to get her out fast.
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Sigh. I really hate to go that route and would be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it. I've looked into restraining orders and they are geared for prevention of violence; which may be exactly what could happen.
I would prefer to commit her to a state supported institution...I've looked into that too and it's not that difficult.
thanks for your opinion
 
Thank all of you for your responses. When I showed my wife about this post, her mouth was agape for a while, yet she offered no other solutions. I'ts a hard thing.
 
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