Cancer, divorcing a German with 5 year old son

[Survivor4Life]

I was dianogised with metasized breast cancer one day prior to heading to states for a visit. We decided to shorten our visit, as a complete scan needed to be preformed. My five year old son & I were there for a couple weeks prior to my german husband coming to join us. When he arrived after three years of marriage he decided he wanted a divorce. We have been living in germany for two years with visits to the states twice a year sometimes for lengthy stays. Once I found out what he was planning on doing, I again shorted my visit, left my son in america and flew back to germany to run tests and be treated. I just finished 4 weeks of radiation, and am on hormone treatment and a monthly infusion. I left my good paying job, medical insurance, lease car, bonus and packages to come here to live. he promised he would only be here for no more then three years. I have no medical insurance in america, and am looking to join A high Risk Medical plan, which is approx $900 for my son and I . After being here for a week my husband no longer living here, took the bank card away, he left me no alternative then to seek a lawyer. He wants to pay me three years of alimony only. My lawyer says that is unacceptable. And I guess we are going to court. He will let us move back to states for the duration of separation. My lawyer says I should be getting more alimony. I am being told I need to work if I can, or my concerns if cancer finds it way back into another area of my body. Please let me here from someone. I will need to fly to and fro germany and america to get the monthly treatments I need. What should I expect, is my lawyer doing the right thing? Can he make me work and then deluct amount from alimony. Would if I get sick again? Should my husband be required to buy me a car, pay for medical insurance? Most importantly do I loose any right or power when I move back to america? Too much, I just want to know if this sounds right and to secure that my son & I have the best life we can under the circumstances. Is my husband required to pay for any help my son needs as far a therapist? Does being sick, even if I am temorarily curried play a roll in length of alimony etc. Another view needed for clarity. Too much, afraid it will take away any more. Should I fight for full custody.. Please help.

 

[Duranie]

How long have you been married for? Only 3 years? That marriage is extremely short term and you will be lucky to get any alimony at all.

Unfortunately asking for more than a year or so of alimony is probably not reasonable. You are required to work and support yourself. you MIGHT be able to force him to keep you on medical insurance for at least a year byut asking for alimony, and medical insurance might not happen. Do you have an attorney? Is this child by him or someone else? You need to get childs upport from that childs father.

Is it possible for you to return to Germany with your son to live? Seems like if you have medical insurance there, and good job waiting for you it might make more sense to move back.