I'm currently contemplating divorce and I have a question of timing in relation to my spouse's career decision. I'm not quite there with deciding to divorce. Currently my wife and I make nearly identical sums of money. We make enough to comfortably support ourselves, but due to the housing market, her student loans, and our 8 month old daughter, we're unable to change much about our lifestyle than would allow us to take much of a hit to our finances at the current time. She's threatened to quit her job on a few occasions and is now looking for something else. Unfortunately, her qualifications rest directly in Sales and most other professions would require retraining (which she's not willing) or a massive pay cut (which we can't support).
I'm afraid that if she does decide to make a move without consulting me, that in the case of an eventual divorce, that it will drastically impact any child support judgment.
Note that I'm not at all opposed to paying it, or paying a significant amount. I'm a good father who recognizes his obligations, both financial and emotional. However, my number one concern as it relates to my career is doing what's best for my family, not what's best for me. I just can't get on board with her making a career move when it means that our family will be taking a hit.
I've made suggestions, like sticking it out a year or two and paying down our mortgage to a point where we can refinance to a lower payment or sell, but she's unwilling to do this. If she does make a move, it might be the final straw (there are other problems) in us going to the divorce road.
My question - how would her career decisions impact child support payments?
I'm afraid that if she does decide to make a move without consulting me, that in the case of an eventual divorce, that it will drastically impact any child support judgment.
Note that I'm not at all opposed to paying it, or paying a significant amount. I'm a good father who recognizes his obligations, both financial and emotional. However, my number one concern as it relates to my career is doing what's best for my family, not what's best for me. I just can't get on board with her making a career move when it means that our family will be taking a hit.
I've made suggestions, like sticking it out a year or two and paying down our mortgage to a point where we can refinance to a lower payment or sell, but she's unwilling to do this. If she does make a move, it might be the final straw (there are other problems) in us going to the divorce road.
My question - how would her career decisions impact child support payments?
