formermarine81
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Hi,
I posted a few months ago regarding a frivilous felony charge against my fiancee's birth father. It took a lot of money and the stress was driving me insane but eventually the truth came out and the DA dismissed the case.
After trying to workout things with the mother, which was probably a bad idea, things were going decent up until a few months ago. Then again her drinking got worse and our relationship began to sour. I kept my distance but still continued to care for my daughter on the weekends. In July things with my ex fiancee began to spiral downward in a very bad way. She was caught with her 2nd DWI and evidently began using drugs (she was eventually acquitted for her DWI and her resisting arrest). About 2 weeks ago, on August 14th I dropped off my daughter and her mother seemed very strange to me, having lived with an alcoholic you tend to notice when a person with a disease has even had 1 drink, she didn't seem intoxicated but just different. I call her father and explained to him our interaction, he went straight over to our old home and took the baby from her and returned the baby to me. I would find out from him and her aunt later that same day that Tralannie had been using drugs and on that particular weekend she had thrown a 72 hr party at the house with drugs and alcohol and he was kicking her out of one of the houses which we had been previously living at.
The next morning I called up my job and asked for the day off. I went to court and filed for custody, a modification of child support and requested an order of protection(which was denied). I was in court on Monday for so long and literally calling every lawyer in the phone book (it's a sad sad day when most family lawyers are so busy and have so many clients they can't even meet with you). I finally get a hold of a lawyer and they advise me which paperwork to submit to court. I ask legal aid at the courthouse for help in filling out the various documents and have them submitted. The judge which denied my order of protection advised me that once I filed my child custody papers I would not have to legally return the child back to her mother until a court date had been issued and we spoke with a referre since neither of us had previously disputed child custody and technically since I was going to be the first to file I would have the upper hand.
I asked for the rest of the week off from work and found a daycare near my work for my daughter. Monday the 22nd was her first day and she didn't even cry when I dropped her off. I am doing my best to search the internet and become a student of the law but our court date is Sept 22nd and from everything I've read it seems that this entire process will be like climbing Mt. Everst.
It is very depressing and demoralizing when I read how countless fathers are screwed by the system. How courts automatically favor mothers. Women constantly argue for equal rights in the work place but when they come to family court, it's men that get the short end of the stick. I'm a huge fan of women but if they want equal pay/rights/freedom I believe they should be the first to acknowledge that it doesn't exist for me when battling for their children.
My ex fiancee is an alcoholic, apparent drug user, she attempted to commit suicide years ago, she hasn't held a steady job in years, manipulator and constantly lies. The woman that exist today is not the woman I feel in love with years ago. After almost 4 years of being together and engaged, last week, we believe to spite everyone she married some man she had known less than 3.5 weeks. She has yet to attempt to contact me regarding the welfare of our daughter in now 11 days. From everything I've read I believe she is sitting pretty thinking the system will work in her favor because she is the mother. My name is on our baby's birth certificate and I have all I could for both of them. All I ever did was try to help her mother overcome her addiction and when I stopped babysitting her, everything came down and fast.
Come September 22nd, my ex fiancee which is easily way out of my league will no doubt show up to court all dolled up and plead her case. She will lie and tell them about the times the police were called to our home and there were incidents of domestic violence noted, failing to mention on those occassions, I the sober one was trying to calm her down and trying to keep her from driving off drunk and hurting herself or worse someone else.
My daughters mother needs seroius mental help and a few months of rehab. But you can't help someone who doesn't believe they have a problem. The only good thing is that her family finally acknowledges she has a big issue and after years of me asking for help trying to setup an intervention they finally believe we all need to do whatever we can to protect my daughter, their grandbaby.
I need all the help I can get. I have been gathering all the information I can regarding, every incident we experienced, all the emails I wrote asking for help from friends and family and a short history of her bizarre and crazy behavior. If anyone else has any advice on how I could please my case it would truly be appreciated.
Thanks. Doing all I can to keep it together to stay strong, not only for me but my little one. God knows I almost break down everyday, and can't beleive the woman I love has hurt me so much and even worse yet doesn't appear to care for our daughter.
I posted a few months ago regarding a frivilous felony charge against my fiancee's birth father. It took a lot of money and the stress was driving me insane but eventually the truth came out and the DA dismissed the case.
After trying to workout things with the mother, which was probably a bad idea, things were going decent up until a few months ago. Then again her drinking got worse and our relationship began to sour. I kept my distance but still continued to care for my daughter on the weekends. In July things with my ex fiancee began to spiral downward in a very bad way. She was caught with her 2nd DWI and evidently began using drugs (she was eventually acquitted for her DWI and her resisting arrest). About 2 weeks ago, on August 14th I dropped off my daughter and her mother seemed very strange to me, having lived with an alcoholic you tend to notice when a person with a disease has even had 1 drink, she didn't seem intoxicated but just different. I call her father and explained to him our interaction, he went straight over to our old home and took the baby from her and returned the baby to me. I would find out from him and her aunt later that same day that Tralannie had been using drugs and on that particular weekend she had thrown a 72 hr party at the house with drugs and alcohol and he was kicking her out of one of the houses which we had been previously living at.
The next morning I called up my job and asked for the day off. I went to court and filed for custody, a modification of child support and requested an order of protection(which was denied). I was in court on Monday for so long and literally calling every lawyer in the phone book (it's a sad sad day when most family lawyers are so busy and have so many clients they can't even meet with you). I finally get a hold of a lawyer and they advise me which paperwork to submit to court. I ask legal aid at the courthouse for help in filling out the various documents and have them submitted. The judge which denied my order of protection advised me that once I filed my child custody papers I would not have to legally return the child back to her mother until a court date had been issued and we spoke with a referre since neither of us had previously disputed child custody and technically since I was going to be the first to file I would have the upper hand.
I asked for the rest of the week off from work and found a daycare near my work for my daughter. Monday the 22nd was her first day and she didn't even cry when I dropped her off. I am doing my best to search the internet and become a student of the law but our court date is Sept 22nd and from everything I've read it seems that this entire process will be like climbing Mt. Everst.
It is very depressing and demoralizing when I read how countless fathers are screwed by the system. How courts automatically favor mothers. Women constantly argue for equal rights in the work place but when they come to family court, it's men that get the short end of the stick. I'm a huge fan of women but if they want equal pay/rights/freedom I believe they should be the first to acknowledge that it doesn't exist for me when battling for their children.
My ex fiancee is an alcoholic, apparent drug user, she attempted to commit suicide years ago, she hasn't held a steady job in years, manipulator and constantly lies. The woman that exist today is not the woman I feel in love with years ago. After almost 4 years of being together and engaged, last week, we believe to spite everyone she married some man she had known less than 3.5 weeks. She has yet to attempt to contact me regarding the welfare of our daughter in now 11 days. From everything I've read I believe she is sitting pretty thinking the system will work in her favor because she is the mother. My name is on our baby's birth certificate and I have all I could for both of them. All I ever did was try to help her mother overcome her addiction and when I stopped babysitting her, everything came down and fast.
Come September 22nd, my ex fiancee which is easily way out of my league will no doubt show up to court all dolled up and plead her case. She will lie and tell them about the times the police were called to our home and there were incidents of domestic violence noted, failing to mention on those occassions, I the sober one was trying to calm her down and trying to keep her from driving off drunk and hurting herself or worse someone else.
My daughters mother needs seroius mental help and a few months of rehab. But you can't help someone who doesn't believe they have a problem. The only good thing is that her family finally acknowledges she has a big issue and after years of me asking for help trying to setup an intervention they finally believe we all need to do whatever we can to protect my daughter, their grandbaby.
I need all the help I can get. I have been gathering all the information I can regarding, every incident we experienced, all the emails I wrote asking for help from friends and family and a short history of her bizarre and crazy behavior. If anyone else has any advice on how I could please my case it would truly be appreciated.
Thanks. Doing all I can to keep it together to stay strong, not only for me but my little one. God knows I almost break down everyday, and can't beleive the woman I love has hurt me so much and even worse yet doesn't appear to care for our daughter.
