I have been in court since April 2007 concerning my decision to move to a county that is within an hour's distance. For 10 years I have had to deal with the father of my son who violates visitations and has been been verbally abusive. He learned that I was planning to move to a different county and took me to court. Now he wants full custody of my son even though he can't even provide him with proper living accomodations. I am willing to compromise, letting my son stay with his father during the entire summer and agreeing to drive my son half way during his weekend visits to his father, should the judge allow us to move.
The primary reason for moving is to improve the quality of my children's lives. The area that we want to move to is more conducive to raising children as it is quieter and nicer.
Although I have had physical custody of my son for over 10 years, no judgement was entered. I was a victim of domestic violence and basically left my son's father about 10 years ago. I was granted full custody until the hearing,which never took place. I was neverinformed that I would need to take measures to secure custody of my son. The father of my son never contested my having full custody all these years. He has been seeing him ( violating the courts visitation rules) on alternative weekends. I actually wanted to ask the courts to modify his visiting rights because he violated them so much!
In the meantime, I have been awarded full custody. The court ordered that we complete parenting classes and then the judge will issue his final ruling in September. Isn't there any law that recognizes me as the primary custodian? Why should the father be able to use the courts to continue to harass me and control what I do?
I also have a daughter, and when this fact emerged during the hearing,the judge stated that he needed compelling evidence to split siblings. He did not receive the compelling evidence and yet I am still forced to stay in the county until the judge makes his decision in September--which will happen after we complete the classes. We went to court on April and the parenting classes were full so I have to wait until July to begin them.
Even though I have been primary custodian for over 10 years, don't I have any rights?
I feel that I have done nothing wrong and that the father of my son has used the courts to continue to harass me. Do I have any recourse at the moment? Can this case drag on because my son's father refuses to compromise on anything? Also, can I still motion to modify his visiting rights because he is in violation of the rules?
The primary reason for moving is to improve the quality of my children's lives. The area that we want to move to is more conducive to raising children as it is quieter and nicer.
Although I have had physical custody of my son for over 10 years, no judgement was entered. I was a victim of domestic violence and basically left my son's father about 10 years ago. I was granted full custody until the hearing,which never took place. I was neverinformed that I would need to take measures to secure custody of my son. The father of my son never contested my having full custody all these years. He has been seeing him ( violating the courts visitation rules) on alternative weekends. I actually wanted to ask the courts to modify his visiting rights because he violated them so much!
In the meantime, I have been awarded full custody. The court ordered that we complete parenting classes and then the judge will issue his final ruling in September. Isn't there any law that recognizes me as the primary custodian? Why should the father be able to use the courts to continue to harass me and control what I do?
I also have a daughter, and when this fact emerged during the hearing,the judge stated that he needed compelling evidence to split siblings. He did not receive the compelling evidence and yet I am still forced to stay in the county until the judge makes his decision in September--which will happen after we complete the classes. We went to court on April and the parenting classes were full so I have to wait until July to begin them.
Even though I have been primary custodian for over 10 years, don't I have any rights?
I feel that I have done nothing wrong and that the father of my son has used the courts to continue to harass me. Do I have any recourse at the moment? Can this case drag on because my son's father refuses to compromise on anything? Also, can I still motion to modify his visiting rights because he is in violation of the rules?
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