Child custody

[asnyder]

I am currently pregnant and am fighting with the father about custody. We are not married and dont live together. I do not like his family and he does not like mine and so that is the main reason for our constant fighting. I am not working and currently am on a LOA from school but I do plan on going back in Dec. to finish and he is not working but in school. He says that the court will rule in his favor because he has more money than me. Right now my mom is supporting me and will be the baby until I finish school. However he has threatened me and my family and he has hit/spit at me but I have nothing to prove any of this. The only thing is he called and cussed out one of my family members but im not sure how I would go about bringing that up in court. Im going to be breastfeeding for a year but pumping once I go back to school and he wants his mom to watch the baby while im in school but I do not want that I would rather have my family watch him or put him in a daycare. I want him to see/ visit with his son but he wont agree to how I want things to go so we are going to have to let a judge decide. Would the judge most likely give me custody with him getting visitation? Is it worth it to hire a laywer he says he is going to but I dont know if it is worth it? What will happen if I do not put his name on the birth certificate? I just want to make sure I have primary custody but im not sure how family courts work for infants.

 

[asnyder]

I forgot to ask what if I drop the baby off with him for the day and he refuses to give him back what would I be able to do because he has threatened me with that before?

 

[shrinkmaster]

If he is not on any birth document then he will need to establish paternity to get any visitation rights. Once that happens he will get visitation

 

[mightymoose]

For your child's sake, put his name on the birth certificate if you are certain he is the father. Your dispute with him is not good reason to leave the name off.

Don't give the child up for any visitation until you have a court ordered visitation schedule. If you do not have a custody/visitation order he will be able to complicate things and make it harder for you.

You should expect to be awarded custody and he will get some degree of visitation that will increase as the child gets older.

His family has no visitation rights. If he is not going to be with the child then the child should be with you.

Don't try and make him out to be a terrible person if you can't support the accusations, it will only make you look bad. Focus on what you are willing to allow for visitation and be prepared to settle for something less than that.

The sooner you get things in motion for court ordered visitation the better off you all will be. You don't need a lawyer, but if you can afford one it would certainly help.

 

[Proserpina]

The same applies to Mom.

If SHE can't have the child, Dad should have the child.

Mom, your family is not superior to his.