child visitation and custody

[delfinaalicea]

i was living in miami and i chose to move away to georgia with my two children but one of the fathers wants to seek visitation for his child for six months and is trying to recieve custody as well but he has two prior cases against him for domestic child abuse which was one he was sent to anger mangement and the other was closed but he wants to make me a bad person that wants to be with him but i was trying to get along with him but it is alot of emotional abuse going on between his saying towards me so i really dont know what to do. he says he only want to see her whenever he wants to while i was linving in miami but now he wants to take legal action because i left to georgia. what to do?

 

[army judge]

You don't have to do anything.

He wasn't married to you when you gave birth to the child.

Before he can obtain custody, he has to establish paternity.

Even if he has established paternity, he then has to seek a custody order through the court.

In the interim, you'd be smart to stop communicating with him.

Don't tell him where you are.

He doesn't need to know.

If you do that, he'll go away.

Most of these dirtballs eventually do.

He doesn't want to be a father.

He just wants some easy sex with you.

You'd be smart to avoid him at all costs!

 

[delfinaalicea]

im just afraid that he will take me to court if he doesnt get to see his daughter i dnt think its fair that he wants everything his way. he wants to send money whenever he wants and see her whenever he wants and i dont think its healthy for neither for my child or me. i dont want to go back to miami because he lied to them that i still live there and he claims that he has a lawyer already.

 

[delfinaalicea]

i feel like im doing the wrong thing here when it comes to my daughter i dnt want to be selfish and not let him see her thats why i was trying to reason with him but he just ignoring of what i have to say. i do care for him n i do love him even though we are not together because he thinks im not good enough but i was hoping i would be good enough for him to treat me with some respect and try to get along as good friend for our daughter. i dont want her see us arguing all the time and hearing him insulting me. im confused because i dont want to hurt anyone in the process but the only person i see getting hurt is my feelings.

 

[Proserpina]

Has he actually filed anything?

And IS he legally established as father?

 

[delfinaalicea]

not that i know of if he filed anything and he only listed that he is the father by birth certificate we never went to court

 

[delfinaalicea]

he said he will file if i don't file

 

[army judge]

You're wasting your time and efforts by caring about someone that holds you in such low esteem.

He will never come back.

He has no feeling for you or your child.

Talk to a counselor or a person you respect and value.

Sometimes you need a disinterested party to help you accept the truth.