Common Grounds

[MEDTTMJ68]

I have a 73 year old mother, who was the primary caregiver of a 92 year old man. Seventeen years ago they met at a senior dance. They became friends immediately and from there the relationship grew. They spent time at each others house, went out to eat and traveled places with each other. After a while, he began to refer to my mother as his sole companion but I explained they did not need to express they were married. I explained I was old fashioned and do not like this common law reference. They both agreed. After ten years together, my mother moved into his house permanently. I referred to him as my adopted dad and we took good care of him. He also did the same for us. He made by hand, slingshots for my son and would show us the fine art in properly sharpening knifes used to whittle. I was very impressed. This man was the true gentleman he portrayed himself to be. Before I knew it, I went against my own rule and began to refer to him as Dad. He had become family. We had him over to Thanksgiving, Christmas and even took the grill to him in the country to cook on Fathers Day. We wanted to spoil him. He offered to pay for things but I refused. That was his money. Then he bought my mom a car. This was a big step for me. It was a small car (Corolla). She took him everywhere in it. He even told his son to make sure my mom was taken care of at the property, she could continue to live there until she passed. This was a big deal for me but as long as my mother and him were happy, it was all good. Then slowly his health began to show signs. My mother had a new shower installed for him so it was easy to bathe him. It was his money used. She arranged for a scooter for him and so forth. She became his full time caregiver. She cooked, cleaned and tended to every need. She made sure if he eliminated on himself there was no skin breakdown. He was in good hands. However, his family was limiting how much time they were there. They would even call her at the grocery store to tell her to hurry cause he was wet. They refused to get their hands dirty to clean him. When he was put in the hospital for respiratory problems, she stayed by his side. The nurses let her shower in facility and she never left. She still fed him, changed him and looked after him. The last day, she headed to the bathroom and washed his dentures after breakfast. He told her he loved her and immediately passed. My mother got help but he was gone. She emotionally died with him that day. It was tough. I told her she could come live with me but she is stubborn. Now his family wants her out of the house. Does she have any legal recourse? Please help!

 

[disagreeable]

It appears she is entitled to receive a 3 day notice to vacate before the owner files for a court eviction.

 

[army judge]

Come on, you said it about 50 words into your MANIFESTO.
They weren't married, just two old freaks doing the nasty and shacking up.
She has no rights to anything.
He serviced her debauched desires, killing himself in their freaky frenzies.
She accepts your gracious offer, or faces a very embarrassing and perhaps revealing eviction.

 

[Betty3]

If they weren't married, there isn't much she can do. He should have had something legal drawn up regarding her staying there.

 

[Gail_in_Georgia]

Legally, at the most, your mother might be considered a month to month tenant in this situation but even that is highly unlikely. The relatives can begin the process of evicting her and, unfortunately, she really has no rights to remaining in this house.

As has been stated, this fellow should have had something legally drawn up regarding allowing her to remain there after he passes. But folks often don't think of such things.

Equally unfortunate is that this happens more frequently than you can imagine.

Gail

 

[army judge]

I have a 73 year old mother, who was the primary caregiver of a 92 year old man. Seventeen years ago they met at a senior dance. They became friends immediately and from there the relationship grew. They spent time at each others house, went out to eat and traveled places with each other. After a while, he began to refer to my mother as his sole companion but I explained they did not need to express they were married. I explained I was old fashioned and do not like this common law reference. They both agreed. After ten years together, my mother moved into his house permanently. I referred to him as my adopted dad and we took good care of him. He also did the same for us. He made by hand, slingshots for my son and would show us the fine art in properly sharpening knifes used to whittle. I was very impressed. This man was the true gentleman he portrayed himself to be. Before I knew it, I went against my own rule and began to refer to him as Dad. He had become family. We had him over to Thanksgiving, Christmas and even took the grill to him in the country to cook on Fathers Day. We wanted to spoil him. He offered to pay for things but I refused. That was his money. Then he bought my mom a car. This was a big step for me. It was a small car (Corolla). She took him everywhere in it. He even told his son to make sure my mom was taken care of at the property, she could continue to live there until she passed. This was a big deal for me but as long as my mother and him were happy, it was all good. Then slowly his health began to show signs. My mother had a new shower installed for him so it was easy to bathe him. It was his money used. She arranged for a scooter for him and so forth. She became his full time caregiver. She cooked, cleaned and tended to every need. She made sure if he eliminated on himself there was no skin breakdown. He was in good hands. However, his family was limiting how much time they were there. They would even call her at the grocery store to tell her to hurry cause he was wet. They refused to get their hands dirty to clean him. When he was put in the hospital for respiratory problems, she stayed by his side. The nurses let her shower in facility and she never left. She still fed him, changed him and looked after him. The last day, she headed to the bathroom and washed his dentures after breakfast. He told her he loved her and immediately passed. My mother got help but he was gone. She emotionally died with him that day. It was tough. I told her she could come live with me but she is stubborn. Now his family wants her out of the house. Does she have any legal recourse? Please help!

You have two years to cool off.

Good bye!!!!!