Could Really Use Some Help! Please!!

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Damjia

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Ok, this is long but I will try to keep to facts:

1. My boyfriend and his ex have two children together, standard cusotdy agreement, they have joint, she has physical, he has standard visitations.

2. Mom married new man after 3 months of knowing him 2 months after marriage husband started screaming at mom, cussing with kids in same room, to get the "bleep" out, daughter age 10 extremely upset, already having problems dealing with new husband and new life, etc.

3. Daughter comes to live with us/ what she wanted for past 2 years. Does not want to go back to moms. Principle and Non-School counseler/ and mom agreed best interest of the child.

4. Mom was all for signing paperwork saying we have physical custody.

5. Mom now changed mind. She wants us to raise her, but not give physical custody even went as far as saying we could never prove we have her.

6. Mom threating to take child from us/ not in best interest for her (she is emotionally drained).

7. We have no money to get lawyer, must do this on our own.
 
Unless dad goes to court to get this physical custody order changed, things will remain the same.

One thing to keep in mind (and I'm sure other posters will chime in on this). There is no "us" or "we" here. You are considered a legal stranger in this entire process (and would be even if you were married to dad). It is dad who needs to address the legal situation and yes, he would need an attorney to proceed through the court system with this.

Gail
 
Dad does not need an attorney necessarily, but he needs to do this right or dont do it at all. If the child has been living with you for 2 years, then Dad probably will not have a hard time getting custody. He should go down to the court house and fill out the paperwork or at least booka free or low cost consultation with an attorney. He also might want to find a fathers rights group in the state, just to guide him for the paperwork. As long as momn has legal custody on paper, she can get the child anytime and still claim her on taxes.

So being Dad has had the child for 2 years and can submit proof of that, it should not be hard to secure legal custody. Also Dad should adjust child support to reflect he only pay on one child now, or maybe it is just a wash since they each have 1 child.
 
I'm not certain of the daughter has been living with them for the past two years or has wanted to live with them for this time period.

Gail



I'm reading it as daughter has made noises about living with Dad for the past two years, but has only recently moved there.

Now Mommabear won't sign custody papers.

Clarification would be good though :angel
 
Ok I misread the orig post. How long has the child been living with you? Is she registered in a school near you? That would be your first step. Secondly, Dad still needs to file for custody.
 
She has been begging mom to live with her Dad for the past two years. Just moved in with us 2 weeks ago. Dad (Sorry I say we all the time because daughter calls me mom) was going to put her in school with us and mom screamed and told him that she would call police and drag Lynn out of our house if we tried to put her in school at this point. She says that we have no proof that she is living with us, and that court documents say not to take her out of school. Lynn (daughter) has a counsler that she goes to for all the behavior at her mothers house. The counseler stated that if the mother does not sign showing that we have physical custody to let her know. However, no one can MAKE her sign it. Dad is afraid that if he files Mom will just come in with police and take Lynn.
 
Dad is going to have to fight this in court. Plain and simple. He's going to have to be granted custody of the child.
 
Thanks for the advice, dear old ex got angry at him for not switching a holiday, she yanked her today, said she could do whatever she wanted. I have never felt so bad hearing how upset daughter was about it. At least now, she knows how her mother is.
 
Thanks for the advice, dear old ex got angry at him for not switching a holiday, she yanked her today, said she could do whatever she wanted. I have never felt so bad hearing how upset daughter was about it. At least now, she knows how her mother is.







Golf balls, baseballs, basketballs, and bullets receive better treatment than many children in this country.

Every dog gets his/her day, however.

If you live long enough in this life and commit evil, you'll pay a higher price than the pain you've inflicted on others.

My thoughts and prayers are with the child.

If you have children (or have parents), PLEASE tell them you love them (a couple extra times) today and pray for this little child.
 
you are NOT mom

. Dad (Sorry I say we all the time because daughter calls me mom) .

and this COULD end up causing dad a lot of problems, allowing his daughter to call a legal stranger( and thats what you are) mom. its not something a judge will look kindly on dad for. its called parental alienation
 
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