Could we fight for custody?

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Rose97

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My sister met this guy when I was in high school freshmen year. She was in love. She didn't live with us she moved out a long time ago. But when she would come visit she'd have a lot of bruises on her. She'd cry to my father and my mother about how he'd beat her. But she wouldn't ever call the authorities because he kept saying he's sorry and promised that he would change and she believed him. And I've tried calling he authorities but I can't do anything if she doesn't consent to it, if she doesn't admit to it. She was still being physically and mentally abused when she was pregnant with her baby girl. After the baby was born he would still hit her, she had moved to away with our aunt to be far from her husband because she couldn't take the abuse anymore but then there goes again where he apologyses and states that he has changed so she returns to him with their child once again. Their kid is now 2 years old. She started defending her mother when her daddy would hit her, and then he'd yell at her and tell her to get out the way. So my sister had sent her daughter with me to live with her grandma, our mom, so she could be safe and have a roof over her head. She left her husband and lived in a shelter for a while, now has a room some place. And now she believes she's stable enough for me to give her her child back to her but for the three months she been with us, she has gained a little more weight because she was so skinny, she has eaten a lot, we bought her a lot of toys which my sister couldn't afford a lot for her... we take her for walks in the beach. She's learning a lot with us cause we have the time for her. But tell me, now her mom wants her back but she's living on her own and working a full time job who's gonna take care of her? Who's gonna make sure she's eating, that she's happy. Who's gonna dance with her? And sing "let it go" with her? I know my sister is her mother and she's trying her best but she's not ready yet she's not. I wanna know my niece is gonna be safe and happy and the only way is if she stays with us. Could I fight for her? Could get custody of her... or can my mother? Please.
 
No. Neither you nor your mother have any kind of legal standing. The only people with inherent rights to a child are that child's parents.
 
Sorry but neither you or your Mother have any rights in regard to this child. If the child is ever being abused and/or neglected, contact CPS.
 
Bless you for caring about the child. But also give your sister credit for trying to do the right thing as well. Perhaps you can help your sister take care of the child.
 
Rose97 said:
My sister met this guy when I was in high school freshmen year. She was in love. She didn't live with us she moved out a long time ago. But when she would come visit she'd have a lot of bruises on her. She'd cry to my father and my mother about how he'd beat her. But she wouldn't ever call the authorities because he kept saying he's sorry and promised that he would change and she believed him. And I've tried calling he authorities but I can't do anything if she doesn't consent to it, if she doesn't admit to it. She was still being physically and mentally abused when she was pregnant with her baby girl. After the baby was born he would still hit her, she had moved to away with our aunt to be far from her husband because she couldn't take the abuse anymore but then there goes again where he apologyses and states that he has changed so she returns to him with their child once again. Their kid is now 2 years old. She started defending her mother when her daddy would hit her, and then he'd yell at her and tell her to get out the way. So my sister had sent her daughter with me to live with her grandma, our mom, so she could be safe and have a roof over her head. She left her husband and lived in a shelter for a while, now has a room some place. And now she believes she's stable enough for me to give her her child back to her but for the three months she been with us, she has gained a little more weight because she was so skinny, she has eaten a lot, we bought her a lot of toys which my sister couldn't afford a lot for her... we take her for walks in the beach. She's learning a lot with us cause we have the time for her. But tell me, now her mom wants her back but she's living on her own and working a full time job who's gonna take care of her? Who's gonna make sure she's eating, that she's happy. Who's gonna dance with her? And sing "let it go" with her? I know my sister is her mother and she's trying her best but she's not ready yet she's not. I wanna know my niece is gonna be safe and happy and the only way is if she stays with us. Could I fight for her? Could get custody of her... or can my mother? Please.
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You legally have no bearing in this. If the mom wants her daughter back you give her the child back.

I'm a single mom with a full time job...are you saying I shouldn't have sole custody of my daughter? Are you saying that those of us who are single parents with full time jobs can't adequately care for our children? Who are you to judge who is a good parent or not?

Why would the judge grant you custody of that child if her mother has left her husband, has a job and a stable home and can take care of HER child?

Nothing you have said would allow you custody of that child. And you shouldn't. She should be with her parent.

Also have you ever been in an abusive relationship? If not then you have no idea how hard it is to leave and how manipulative abusers are. Oh I guess I'm a shitty parent too because I stayed in an abusive relationship.

I don't know you but your comments make you sound like a judgmental asshole.
 

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