sleestack
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- Jurisdiction
- Virginia
Hi
My sister is in a very very bitter custody battle with her ex husband, whom has been the sole breadwinner and she has been the stay at home mom for the last 13 years to their 13 year old and 9 year old.
My sister is not independently wealthy and her ex was allowed to cut her off financially completely as of January when the divorce began. She is struggling to survive financially, as it has been challenging to obtain a job that pays enough in this time of life, and she has been out of the work force for so long and does not have a college degree. Her husband's family is a well respected family that goes many generations back in the city. His father is a well respected Dentist. His mother is a teacher. They donate to charity, etc. But they are awful people and vindictive towards my sister, because she wanted to leave their son, after many years of his narcissistic mental and emotional abuse. They know my sister was a good mother. But they are using everything they can to paint a picture that isn't real. My sister drank a bit too much during covid, and during the end of their 15 year marriage because of the entrapment to this abusive person, whom refused to let her have a separation. They, including her husband, used that to make her look like an alcoholic, ..She no longer drinks, and has been sober for 2.5 months.
They got child protective services involved. They took her kids away because during Christmas she went out and had two glasses of wine when she was only allowed 1. They had a private eye take pictures of her.
I feel this whole court is biased against her. That the family has too much influence and sway. The GAL that deals with the kids will not speak to my sister because she no longer has a lawyer. My sister ran out of money for lawyers. The GAL that is supposed to communicate between the Father, my sister and the kids is paid by the family of the ex husband. That seems like a conflict of interest. Also, the husband grew up with the Chief DA of the county they are divorcing in, and the DA is very friendly with his whole family. The whole thing smells wrong and Im asking if there can be oversight somehow? It's a county court in VA. I dont want to get too specific. What can you do if you think everything is just too biased?
She doesn't miss drinking , So that is good. Her alcohol abuse wasn't that severe though. She was never in a DUI. Never drunk in the morning. Nothing like that. Thats is why it is strange. She is a Mom who likes a glass of wine at night. Not anymore of course. I am a witness. It wasn't severe. Hence why Im asking the question. She needs an attorney, She spent all her money during the CPS portion (my mother's life savings) . But she has been totally cut off financially. I don't know what women are to do in a situation like this. How can they get representation if the breadwinner cuts them off completely ?
I should add these people. The parents of the husband. Have done this before. Taken children away. They took the fathers (the dentist) brothers children from his wife many years ago cause she was depressed.. It's their MO if you will. Rather cruel to be honest. They got their kids back though. I do believe courts want kids with the mother in the end. Kids want their mom
My sister is in a very very bitter custody battle with her ex husband, whom has been the sole breadwinner and she has been the stay at home mom for the last 13 years to their 13 year old and 9 year old.
My sister is not independently wealthy and her ex was allowed to cut her off financially completely as of January when the divorce began. She is struggling to survive financially, as it has been challenging to obtain a job that pays enough in this time of life, and she has been out of the work force for so long and does not have a college degree. Her husband's family is a well respected family that goes many generations back in the city. His father is a well respected Dentist. His mother is a teacher. They donate to charity, etc. But they are awful people and vindictive towards my sister, because she wanted to leave their son, after many years of his narcissistic mental and emotional abuse. They know my sister was a good mother. But they are using everything they can to paint a picture that isn't real. My sister drank a bit too much during covid, and during the end of their 15 year marriage because of the entrapment to this abusive person, whom refused to let her have a separation. They, including her husband, used that to make her look like an alcoholic, ..She no longer drinks, and has been sober for 2.5 months.
They got child protective services involved. They took her kids away because during Christmas she went out and had two glasses of wine when she was only allowed 1. They had a private eye take pictures of her.
I feel this whole court is biased against her. That the family has too much influence and sway. The GAL that deals with the kids will not speak to my sister because she no longer has a lawyer. My sister ran out of money for lawyers. The GAL that is supposed to communicate between the Father, my sister and the kids is paid by the family of the ex husband. That seems like a conflict of interest. Also, the husband grew up with the Chief DA of the county they are divorcing in, and the DA is very friendly with his whole family. The whole thing smells wrong and Im asking if there can be oversight somehow? It's a county court in VA. I dont want to get too specific. What can you do if you think everything is just too biased?
She doesn't miss drinking , So that is good. Her alcohol abuse wasn't that severe though. She was never in a DUI. Never drunk in the morning. Nothing like that. Thats is why it is strange. She is a Mom who likes a glass of wine at night. Not anymore of course. I am a witness. It wasn't severe. Hence why Im asking the question. She needs an attorney, She spent all her money during the CPS portion (my mother's life savings) . But she has been totally cut off financially. I don't know what women are to do in a situation like this. How can they get representation if the breadwinner cuts them off completely ?
I should add these people. The parents of the husband. Have done this before. Taken children away. They took the fathers (the dentist) brothers children from his wife many years ago cause she was depressed.. It's their MO if you will. Rather cruel to be honest. They got their kids back though. I do believe courts want kids with the mother in the end. Kids want their mom