stainglass
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Before dad passed, he asked if he could put me on with the youngest sibling for the trust. After he passed, the youngest says he is in charge. Dad farmed and youngest sibling was in partnership (somewhat) on Farming. He will not show the other 3 the trust. We asked mom if we could see the trust, she agreed no reason not to, but when our attorney wrote the letter requesting this from the Trust Attorney, we were told the "client" mom, declined our wish. Youngest brother bullies her and she has alzheimers which she isn't always thinking clear. He now has her on all sorts of medication which none of us agree with, but the Dr. won't call me, so I am sure due to the health acts, he can't discuss her info even though she is my mom. He moved her out of her house after funeral (almost 2 years ago). So, we have to call his house to talk to her. Now he and his wife won't answer the phone, I have left numerous messages to have her call me, but I know she doesn't get them. Besides that they have sort of brain washed her and told her we are all after her money and he tells her basically what to do and think. What options are there. I am assuming there is no way to look at the trust without permission as our attorney letter got that response, so with that said, what can we do about him not allowing us to see the trust of know what is in it.
He also won't let us see or talk to her, at least he tells us we are not welcome at his house. 1 sibling lives an hour away and has dropped in to see her, the other 2 are further away (5+ hours) and can't just stop. Last time I went to see her, they wouldn't let her go out of the house, thinking that would stop us, so we went in. Because he is the one named in the trust, does that mean she has to do what he says? I think she is really scared and confused from medicine and alzheimers and is afraid to speak her mind or stand up against him. He tells me she doesn't want to talk to me, I cause problems, told another sibling they couldn't come to the funeral of my father, which they didn't, and the other one he leaves nasty messages because he still rents some of dad's land as he always has for cattle and makes threats that he isn't going to allow him to rent the land and on and on. I have concerns that mom is being taken care of properly.
Another issue is proof that he isn't just spending her money on his needs. Is there any rules where he has to report to us what he spends her money on anually or any other type of reporting he must do as the trustee of the trust? Mom actually gets money from some small oil wells, which I think is to be going into the trust, but I don't know forsure. Does he have to tell us if he sells things off to either pay for farm stuff or to care for her? This siblings wife has told people our mother is broke and they have to start selling stuff?
I know this is complicated and hits in several different areas. If someone can give me any advice even just 1 area, I would greatly appreciate it. I have no clue what to do, can't afford more attorney bills and just feel I will be very sorry later in life. Also, the younger sibling has made comments to outsiders of how he is going to get it all and there will be no 4 way split when it is over. He basically has anger issues and wants to get even with dad. I know we only have a couple more years and alzheimers will have taken her completely, so he is robbing us of time with our mom. Thank you.
He also won't let us see or talk to her, at least he tells us we are not welcome at his house. 1 sibling lives an hour away and has dropped in to see her, the other 2 are further away (5+ hours) and can't just stop. Last time I went to see her, they wouldn't let her go out of the house, thinking that would stop us, so we went in. Because he is the one named in the trust, does that mean she has to do what he says? I think she is really scared and confused from medicine and alzheimers and is afraid to speak her mind or stand up against him. He tells me she doesn't want to talk to me, I cause problems, told another sibling they couldn't come to the funeral of my father, which they didn't, and the other one he leaves nasty messages because he still rents some of dad's land as he always has for cattle and makes threats that he isn't going to allow him to rent the land and on and on. I have concerns that mom is being taken care of properly.
Another issue is proof that he isn't just spending her money on his needs. Is there any rules where he has to report to us what he spends her money on anually or any other type of reporting he must do as the trustee of the trust? Mom actually gets money from some small oil wells, which I think is to be going into the trust, but I don't know forsure. Does he have to tell us if he sells things off to either pay for farm stuff or to care for her? This siblings wife has told people our mother is broke and they have to start selling stuff?
I know this is complicated and hits in several different areas. If someone can give me any advice even just 1 area, I would greatly appreciate it. I have no clue what to do, can't afford more attorney bills and just feel I will be very sorry later in life. Also, the younger sibling has made comments to outsiders of how he is going to get it all and there will be no 4 way split when it is over. He basically has anger issues and wants to get even with dad. I know we only have a couple more years and alzheimers will have taken her completely, so he is robbing us of time with our mom. Thank you.
