playingfair
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My husband and I are divorced. Our divorce was final in North Carolina in September, 2007. He lives in Germany, a retired American Army colonel now employeed in a US government civilian job. We settled our property agreement in April 2007 and it was signed in court. In November 2007, I received a 9000 pound shipment of household goods from Germany, but he left out some items, the main one being a full length mink coat valued at $20,000, listed in the court-signed property agreement as being mine. My daughter (his former stepdaughter) is now in Germany for the holidays staying with friends, and I have repeatedly asked him to take the coat to a friend's house for her to pick up there and bring home to me. He refuses, stating he didn't send it in the shipment because of its value (although we took it to Germany in our household goods shipment), and he plans to hand-carry it to me in April.
After countless kind emails of my asking him to take it to the friend's house nearby, I sent this email last night:
I want the mink coat and hat now. Winter will be over in April. There is no sense in your holding on to them. Take them to ____'s this weekend, along with anything else you've found from the list of missing items (the dog coat, for one) that isn't breakable. We need to decide on a firm deadline for you to ship all the other things to me that were left out of the shipment. "As time permits" is not reasonable. There is no reason for you to keep dragging this out forever.
Here is his email I received today:
You're funny! I want, I want, I want...you wore that coat twice in ten years; once in ___ for the Christmas parade and once on 31 Dec 1999. Now, all of a sudden YOU WANT it before Apr so that you can wear it in ____. I spent over ten months getting that shipment together to "please you." But you expect me to drop everything again to get a few items. I said that I will do it and I will. If I have time, I can drop off some items that are not breakable. The dog jacket is the only item in that category so far. The Top Model jacket was shipped.
You are very demanding when it is all about you; nothing is reasonable when it is all about you.
I suggest that you be thankful that I was not vindictive with your stuff or Dean's.
I suggest that you lower your tone and be thankful that I am working to help you.
(Dean is my brother who had left some things at our house while visiting Germany.)
Unfortunately, my $300/hour lawyer did not suggest a deadline in the court papers for all items to be returned to me. How long can he drag this out? What rights do I have in getting my things back, things that are in a court order as being mine and he is responsible to get them to me? I can't afford to take him to court again, unless he will be required to pay my lawyer and court fees. When is he considered in contempt of fulfilling the property settlement? What should I do at this point?
After countless kind emails of my asking him to take it to the friend's house nearby, I sent this email last night:
I want the mink coat and hat now. Winter will be over in April. There is no sense in your holding on to them. Take them to ____'s this weekend, along with anything else you've found from the list of missing items (the dog coat, for one) that isn't breakable. We need to decide on a firm deadline for you to ship all the other things to me that were left out of the shipment. "As time permits" is not reasonable. There is no reason for you to keep dragging this out forever.
Here is his email I received today:
You're funny! I want, I want, I want...you wore that coat twice in ten years; once in ___ for the Christmas parade and once on 31 Dec 1999. Now, all of a sudden YOU WANT it before Apr so that you can wear it in ____. I spent over ten months getting that shipment together to "please you." But you expect me to drop everything again to get a few items. I said that I will do it and I will. If I have time, I can drop off some items that are not breakable. The dog jacket is the only item in that category so far. The Top Model jacket was shipped.
You are very demanding when it is all about you; nothing is reasonable when it is all about you.
I suggest that you be thankful that I was not vindictive with your stuff or Dean's.
I suggest that you lower your tone and be thankful that I am working to help you.
(Dean is my brother who had left some things at our house while visiting Germany.)
Unfortunately, my $300/hour lawyer did not suggest a deadline in the court papers for all items to be returned to me. How long can he drag this out? What rights do I have in getting my things back, things that are in a court order as being mine and he is responsible to get them to me? I can't afford to take him to court again, unless he will be required to pay my lawyer and court fees. When is he considered in contempt of fulfilling the property settlement? What should I do at this point?
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