Divorce on HIS mind....

[Marinewifey226]

My husband of almost 2 years mentioned divorce. He said that is not happy with my attitude, my stress level, and how easily I get frustrated. I agree with him to an extent, but when it comes to how I feel he doesn't seem to understand. I am a stay at home mom to a 7 month old. Don't get me wrong, I love what I do...take care of my son and play with him, keep the house clean, do laundry, cook, and I still make time for HIM at the end of the day no matter how exausted I am. Although, he just likes to come home and play his computer games and watch TV, and then go to bed. He is a good father, but he expects ME to do everything when it comes to our son, but he sure enjoys playing with him. I can't complain about that, because our son feels very loved. I give him no responsibility nor does he take any. I know he is a Marine and he works hard, but what I don't understand is why he acts the way he does. We had a LONG talk and things SEEM to be getting better and I know it won't happen overnight, but I feel like I have to be very careful and walk on egg shells, so I don't make him mad. I have been doing extra and going above and beyond. I don't want to lose my husband, but I don't know what else to do. All I want is some more love and affection, and the occasional appriation. He is 26 but has a lot of growing up to do. I will do ANYTHING to make this marriage work. When I said my vows I meant them and though he can really get on my nerves and make me mad, I don't love him any less. I am trying to bite my tongue more and not pick at him for little things, but I also don't think I should let the big things go. Last night he was out with the guys (my brother included) and I didn't mind, but it seems like he would rather have guy time then time here at home with his family. I understand because that's how guys are in High School, but I thought I married a man. I want him to have fun with the guys, but I also want him to have fun and WANT to be around his family. I am just at a loss of words and what I should do. We are moving to Alabama when he gets out of the Marines (May), and I am very excited about that...his family is out there and I adore all of them. I just don't want to leave mine and make the BIG move if he is still unsure. What should I do? Am I doing something wrong that I can fix? He also keeps breaking date night....which is ONLY once a week and I always say it's okay if he goes out afterwards but he "feels bad" yet we come home and he does his own thing. Please if anyone has any advice for me, I will gladly take any....I just want the man I love to be happy, I want to be happy, and I want our son to be happy!!!!!! I know life isn't always peachy, but it shouldn't always be the pits, either.
Thank you so much for your time and for listening!!!

 

[nofear2]

Well, I just replied to other post, and I would suggest that you remove this one. If your mother finds this post, she can argue that your household is not stable, and your daughter should remain with her.

 

[Duranie]

I responded to your other post. You 2 need marital counselling now. I wou7ld not move with him to AL if your marriage is on the rocks because once you do that, you will have trouble moving back if you split up.

I would also find some employment. If he leaves, you have no job and no money. Are you able to work at nights or make some sort of income to help preapre you if you do divorce? While you are married, i would also start sorting out the issue with your daughter. Does your husband have access to JAG? Can they help you with getting custody back?

 

[Marinewifey226]

Thank you both for your repsonses. My mother does not know about this website nor does she have time with all her concerts and such to get online. I am not worried about that. I do have money saved and I am going to be working part-time until I can find something full time. So, I do have all my ducks in a row. I really don't think my mom has anything on me. My husband and I may have problems, but we don't fight and yell and my household is very stable. More so then hers, and I AM the mother regardless. My husband and I went out tonight "Date Night" and had a talk, then we proceeded to laugh and have a good time. He is going to go to JAG with me and we are going to get my daughter back and the "D" word is not in our cards. If it were to happen, his family and I are VERY close and I would never do something where I would be stuck. I appriate the advice, it's all great and hopefully now I can just concentrate on getting the ball rolling with getting my daughter back!!!
Thank you again!!!