Emergency OP stalked at work

[BlondMa]

I have been married for almost 19 yrs.Have three kids 14,9, 10.My husband has become more and more abusive each year.He was unemployed for 6 months and began smoking pot and/or other stuff. I would confront him about the stench and he would boldly deny, saying it was a cigar or i was imagining it.His behavior became more erratic. At my job I would find his friend's dad (janitor)spying on me and my husband would tell me info about what guy i was talking to and other info i never told him. I never did anything improper, I was assigned to workwith different people each day. I found him soliciting for sex online and teen porn.During an argument about this he defended himself saying I'm messing around and he has people watching me at work that tell him all i do.I knew exactly who he meant. So, I called his friends wife(that's a supervisor) and asked her tell her father-in-law to stop. She got mad. A week later my husband picked a fight w/me and he got physical, my 6ft teen came to my aid, he told the kid he would take him out. I told my 9 yo to call pd.He said dont call pd im out of here. After he left with his stuff he had hidden. He returned and i called the pd. I got a emergency order of protection. I took 2 days off. He texted me saying i shouldnt take any days off. The janitor was still updating him.I spoke w/ the manager, told him of the op he assured me this would stop. It did not. About 2 wks later the janitor was hiding behind boxes and listening to a weekend i was planning w/ my kids I seen him slither away. The next day my husband called my sister and kept hanging up on her. I again went to the manager and told him the janitor is endangering my life.The same day the supervisor and her husband called me at home and threatened to beat me up with a bat and called me all kinds of nasty names for telling the manager about the janitor. I called the cops on them. I have been to afraid to return to work. HR said all will be fine and not to worry. I am to afraid to go back. I have been supporting 3 kids on my paycheck $230wk.On top of everything my husband is stalking me. He looks at my phone history and calls people i speak to and asks about me.He put 2 dead animals on my porch. He texts me.During the plenary he stared me down for 2 hours. He drives down our street. The pd is charging him w/ violating OP w/2 out of 6 texts. He is insane and his friends are rotten scum. I am trying to get pro-bono lawyer for a divorce.Can I get these scum friends in violation for harassing me at work or for giving him info about me during op? I am so afraid of him and his scumfriends.
Thank You.

 

[Proserpina]

The OP is against your husband; none of his friends or acquaintances are bound by the conditions.

Who exactly is charging him? And with what?

Are you sure you know what's going on here?

Did you actually have proof that the janitor wasn't simply doing his job before you called the supervisor? Do you have proof of threats? What is the PD doing about it?

 

[mightymoose]

If you haven't, you should be reporting every single violation of the protective order. You also need to be sure you seek a permanent order, as the one that you have likely expires after a week or so.

What you describe is not stalking.

The only violations you describe are the contact via text and passing by the house with the protective order in effect... and assuming he was properly served with the order.

As for your phone, engage the security lock which will require you or anyone else to enter a password every time you want to access it. Without a password nobody will have the opportunity to pry into your business.

 

[BlondMa]

The op states "no direct or indirect contact w/ petitioner or protected parties. No harassment, interference w personal liberty, or stalking. No telephone calls, mail, email,faxes written notes, including social networking,or through third parties who may or may not know of OP.

I am reporting every violation of the order to local pd. I have recently been referred to a county detective in domestic violence. Who is helping me charge my husband with first two of six violations that occurred three weeks ago. He (husband) has these people watching me at work and they are reporting my where abouts to him. I am hoping the detective follows through with a subpeona of his phone records to prove his surveillance of me at work.

He also called the principal at the school inquiring about the children, asking how they travel to and from school. The sheriff went to speak to her after she alerted me.

I am seeking a permanent order, and a divorce. The pd, counselors and sheriff are very worried about our safety.

You are right about the janitor, it will be hard to prove. But knowing my husband, he would give them up to save his own skin.
He is on some crazy drugs, that make him speed, he drinks and smokes pot to come down. He only naps at a couple hours at a time. He lost about 40 lb in a couple months.

I also looked at our bank statement and it shows that he has been traveling near my sister's house and making purchases in the immediate area when we were spending the weekend w/ her.He was just a few blocks away from her house. She lives 1 1/2 hours away from our county.

I do know what is going on. He involved others in screwing with me. Others that are like him. He is trying to get back with us, to control me. He wants to make sure I have no funds, so I have to take him back, just like I did nine years ago. This is the first time I ever stood up to him and did not cave in. I am trying to stay strong for the kids.

Thank you so very much for your advice, insight and help.