I have been married for 31 years. My husband had an affair in 2004 to which he confessed. I have written proof from his chat-room girlfriend, a woman whom he told he loved and then turned aroudn and called her a "stupid bitch."
We thought we could work through it, but separated in the Fall of 2005. This was NOT a legal separation, but a change of domicile on my part. At the time, I wrote him a letter telling him what I would want in any divoce proceedings he might initiate and informing him that in the state of Virginia, adultery is illegal, that he was a married man and that we were not even legally separated and that I expected him to behave appropriately until he obtained a divorce.
He did not seek a divorce, but continued to chase other women, a fellow employee. In the spring of 2006, I received an email written by him to this woman that he accidentally sent to me. He works for the US Postal Service as does she. This email, a series of three emails that night between him and the woman was written from him on a post office work computer during working hours. He then proceeded to meet this woman every time he went to Postal School in Oklahoma. On five occassions, when he attended this postal school, she too was in attendance. I find that beyond coincidence.
On the night of July 16, 2006, the day before the woman could legally check into the school's hotel, he allowed her to stay in his hotel room with him. I have the invoice showing a double occupancy charge to his room for that night. I have confirmation that she was unable to check into the hotel until the following day. I have called the hotel desk and they told me that they could not give me the name of the person sharing his room that night for privacy reasons. He is a married man. Does his employer share any liability in allowing him to conduct an illicit affair using work computers and a work hotel room while he was attending Postal school? His employer knows he is a married man. Does the employer not have the responsibility to counsel its employees on proper use of work equipment and work housing while he is on their time clock?
Thank you for any legal advice.
We thought we could work through it, but separated in the Fall of 2005. This was NOT a legal separation, but a change of domicile on my part. At the time, I wrote him a letter telling him what I would want in any divoce proceedings he might initiate and informing him that in the state of Virginia, adultery is illegal, that he was a married man and that we were not even legally separated and that I expected him to behave appropriately until he obtained a divorce.
He did not seek a divorce, but continued to chase other women, a fellow employee. In the spring of 2006, I received an email written by him to this woman that he accidentally sent to me. He works for the US Postal Service as does she. This email, a series of three emails that night between him and the woman was written from him on a post office work computer during working hours. He then proceeded to meet this woman every time he went to Postal School in Oklahoma. On five occassions, when he attended this postal school, she too was in attendance. I find that beyond coincidence.
On the night of July 16, 2006, the day before the woman could legally check into the school's hotel, he allowed her to stay in his hotel room with him. I have the invoice showing a double occupancy charge to his room for that night. I have confirmation that she was unable to check into the hotel until the following day. I have called the hotel desk and they told me that they could not give me the name of the person sharing his room that night for privacy reasons. He is a married man. Does his employer share any liability in allowing him to conduct an illicit affair using work computers and a work hotel room while he was attending Postal school? His employer knows he is a married man. Does the employer not have the responsibility to counsel its employees on proper use of work equipment and work housing while he is on their time clock?
Thank you for any legal advice.
