I'm engaged to a married man. he lives in new jersey. I live in Pennsylvania. they do not live together...they are waiting to do the paperwork pending the sale of their home. Market is not great and they still have a daughter in college that they are keeping the home for. I have insisted on legal paperwork to be drawn up so they can define the guidelines of the divorce now....they have talked and it's been a agreed upon. in the interim what can he do for me to protect me in case anything happens to him. The way I see I'm high and dry if he dies. He has put me on as a beneficiary to his life insurance. Will that stand up in court? Is there anything else he can do to make sure his soon to be ex does not walz back in and take everything. I realize I don't have any leg to stand on currently, but he is willing to take steps to make sure I'm taken care of....just need to know which steps to take thanks
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There are many complications with the protections you seek. The wife and the daughter have a better position than yours.
You can't legally be engaged to a married person, no matter what you claim it to be. You called it, you have no standing.
In fact, your being named beneficiary on an insurance policy might not withstand a legal challenge. You have no insurable interest in the life of your paramour.
It might be easier to have him set aside a few dollars for you. Or, you might ask him to name you in his will. That, too, could be subject to legal challenges.
You're a very long way from ever becoming his wife. Many, many things can happen between where you are; and where you want to be!
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You can't legally be engaged to a married person, no matter what you claim it to be. You called it, you have no standing.
In fact, your being named beneficiary on an insurance policy might not withstand a legal challenge. You have no insurable interest in the life of your paramour.
It might be easier to have him set aside a few dollars for you. Or, you might ask him to name you in his will. That, too, could be subject to legal challenges.
You're a very long way from ever becoming his wife. Many, many things can happen between where you are; and where you want to be!
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You have very little protection since he is not divorced yet. Secondlly he was with his wife for at least 20 years it sounds like so she has quite a bit invested in this marriage. Legally, I am not sure if he can change the beneficiary to you....his wife should get it. State law dictates if he can do that and if he even needs his ex permission.
I fail to see why you should have any rights to anything until he is divorced. I certainly do not see why you should get any life insurance given his wife is still attatched to their assets and debt, you are not. If something were to happen to him she could easily dispute the benefeciary as she is his wife you are not.
I fail to see why you should have any rights to anything until he is divorced. I certainly do not see why you should get any life insurance given his wife is still attatched to their assets and debt, you are not. If something were to happen to him she could easily dispute the benefeciary as she is his wife you are not.
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Besides all the above.....
Did you know that people divorce every day WITHOUT selling the home first?? And he's waiting until his daughter is out of college?? How much longer is that? Are you sure that he and his wife have come to an agreement on all aspects of the divorce? Have you talked to his wife?
I know you didn't ask for any opinions, but I think he's stringing you along from what you've posted.
Did you know that people divorce every day WITHOUT selling the home first?? And he's waiting until his daughter is out of college?? How much longer is that? Are you sure that he and his wife have come to an agreement on all aspects of the divorce? Have you talked to his wife?
I know you didn't ask for any opinions, but I think he's stringing you along from what you've posted.
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