We would definitely need more info in this situation - not clear.
Who are the defendants & where do they live? Who is the plaintiff & where does she live? Why do you mention NJ?
Would need more details re estate vs us - was an estate probated in NJ? Whose estate?
If we are talking about life ins., who are the beneficiaries (the defendants?) Life ins. passes outside the estate & goes to the bene(s) named in the policies.
This is an old thread & situation may have been settled/resolved by now.