Estranged In Laws

[TGDC]

I live in NY State, my inlaws have not spoken to us in 2 1/2 years.. Out of evil motives against my husband and I they have discontinued sending checks to our children for their birthdays and now purchase E bonds. Previously to having them stop talking to us. We told them to please not purchase bonds, that we have College 529 plans for them. Due to the maturity length of time, my children would not be able to utilize these bonds until they are 30 years of age. This does not help them with anything. The in laws also have the bonds sent to their homes we are not in possession of any of them. US treasury has confirmed this. I do not want them using my children's names & social security numbers for paperwork they are responsible for when they no longer speak to us. Identity theft is rising in childrens socials being stolen. How do I prevent them from continuing to do this. They are very spiteful people.

 

[seniorjudge]

I don't see anything wrong with them purchasing bonds for the kids.

It will be very helpful to them in the future.

 

[TGDC]

Thank you for your opinion I appreciate your response. I was looking to know as to how to stop them from utilzing my childrens personal information. I think I explained it from an emotional point of view rather than a legal point of view. No one should have rights or access to use social security numbers to purchase anything that will remain in their possession. I assume that one day when it is on their terms they will appear back into my childrens lives with gifts of money that will benefit them financially. Till then sending gift receipts to a 5,7 & 9 year making each of the other child the POD and having the actual bond mailed to their home, to me is morbid and petty. The gentleman himself at the Us Treasury even found it peculiar that they would name a minor as the bene & POD... I just want the use of my childs social security numbers to be prevented. They are under law entitled to purchase bonds in THEIR OWN social security numbers if they so chose to continue to purchase them. Not my childrens. Thank you again for your opinion. I appreciate your insight.

 

[seniorjudge]

And how did your in-laws get the personal info?

 

[TGDC]

My children are 5,7 & 9. Back when they where born I did give them access to purchase the bonds for their christenings. When we sought financial advice as to how to handle the childrens moeny in their best interests, we have opened College 529 plans. We informed them of this and they started to send checks that we could deposit into these accounts. Once they stopped talking to us they switched back to the bonds. It has been 2 1/2 years since they have done anything other than send a gift receipt for the bonds to my home. In my curiosity of not receiving any of them I contacted the US Treasury Dept. they confirmed they were being purchased with the childrens social's & being mailed to THEIR addresses. Again I am not against the actual purchase no matter what I emotionally think their intentions on. I have been watching the news and constant reports of identity thefts of young childrens socials are being reported. Not having contact with them, I do not want them having control of their personal information.

 

[seniorjudge]

Nothing in your post indicates that your in-laws are doing anything illegal or immoral.

To the contrary, they are giving your kids money for their future.

That is a very good idea.