Ex-boyfriend Problems

[nylawhelp]

I live in NY and need assistance. I recently ended an 8 month relationship with a man who is 15 years my senior. He took me on a European vacation and showered me with gifts. After the relationship soured I gave him back all his gifts and he accepted them. Also during the relationship, If I mentioned that I didn't like something in his house or if I wanted something for his house, he would go out and purchase it. Now he is claiming that I must pay him for the things that he purchased for his home - these things have been and still remain in his home. He also wants me to pay for my share of the trip. He is saying that I conned him - there was no deception, my feelings towards him changed. The things he purchased for the home and trip would allow him to bring suit in Small Claims Court. In the event he takes me to court - would I be responsible for the home purchases or a part of the trip? Also what are the arguments that I could present to the judge?

Thank you in advance.

 

[Duranie]

ignore him. He has to prove that all this stuff was loans. It is going to be VERY hard to prove that the gifts were loans especially if he has them now. You should not have given anything back. A gift is a gift and it is yours to keep generally.

I would cut off all contact with him. He will have to sue you in court if he wants to get money but it doesnt seem like he has a very good case.

 

[crismld]

I agree if the items were gifts you should be able to keep them. On the other hand. If any of this was an actual money loan to you. Meaning, exchange of funds in order for you to pay for something etc. This is different and can be grounds for civil action. All that is needed is proof that money was given to you and that it was deposited or spent etc. But if that never happened, you have little to worry about.