I am at my wits end, I am a single mother of four, recently ended an eleven year blood-sucking relationship and still cannot get the man out of my business. The ex and I have lived together for the last eleven years, since aug 1997 to be exact, moved from KY to MO in 2007 to "start over", the relationship did not improve only worsened, especially where my oldest daughter is concerned, he constantly picked arguments with her and in essence was trying to force me to choose between the two, and I chose her.
This situation is worse than an after school special and I really don't know where to begin except at the beginning. We met while I was still in Nsg school, the ex came to the relationship newly separated/divorced owning only a motorcycle/clothing/and home theatre system and no job--I should have had a "light bulb moment" but was very "young, dumb and full of ....." and at the time very gullible--also recently widowed with three small children, anyway as soon as I graduated and obtained my first position I purchased a house in KY for my children, I am the sole owner of the home, just after purchasing the home the ex and I had a child together, after two years as a local staff nurse and due to financial needs I became a traveling nurse to increase income, the ex did not work, has not held a steady job for more than 12mo out of 11yrs, and never once offered to better himself even after I offered to pay for schooling, much easier for me to work and pay for everything, during the nine years we lived together in ky he was to "remodel" the house while I worked, his "projects" are still not completed, he also became very abusive to my other children, the oldest one especially and I am just recently finding out all of this, he would threaten them while I was gone and not let them call me, I would be away from home one to two weeks at a time and return for anywhere from three to six days before I left again, while I was at home he would act like "mr mom", while I was away he was "Mr Hyde", the move to MO came from his "escapade" with one of my oldest daughters girlfriends, I will boldly admit I have had outside relationships, I have been unhappy in this relationship for the last four to five years and was very upfront/forward with this man about it, but at no time did I have a relationship with an underage minor, nor did any relationship I have threaten the safety, security, and happiness of my children, after moving to MO, I continued to support everyone solely, at no time did the ex pay a single cent toward rent/utilities/food etc.etc., after trying to "start over" for the last 18mo I finally decided that my youngest would have to adjust to having a single parent household, after informing the ex the relationship was not salvagable he informed me he would need until november to vacate the premises, I was agreeable as long as he paid his part of the household bills and left the rest of us alone, he couldn't manage to do that, escalated his aggressive/abusive behaviors and I finally filed an exparte order against him on aug 18, he has proven to be an expert at hiding, I have continued said order since then and he has yet to be served, he as managed to visit my house in ky and take property/tools purchased by me and valued close to $10,000, he has had assistance in visiting the house in Mo while I was at work or running errands with the children and take property from there valued close to $5000, and he has had assistance in dissappearing with the 2004 jeep liberty paid for by me and valued at approx $16,000, he has also harrassed/threatened/ and verbally abused me over the phone, most recently he has showed up at my doorstep in mo with keys in his hand attempting to enter the front door----unbeknownst to him I am not completely stupid and have changed all the locks at both properties--he then presented me with paperwork to "sign over" the jeep to him, if I do not comply with his wishes he has threatened to "take my nursing liscense away", call DFS and report me for neglect because I am never home---I currently work six 12-16hr shifts per week to support my children and clean up the mess he has left, when he took the jeep I lost about $1000 in wages, he damaged my 2002 Dodge Neon driving it for his "courier" job and repairs on that have added up to $2000, not to mention all the "incidental" charges that have accrued with changing locks, cell phone plans, house phone etc. He also threated he would make sure I cannot sell my house in KY--he managed to purchase a very small section of property from a neighbor while I was on an assignment 2-3yrs ago and put it in his name it is attached to the driveway of my property-- he has also told me that he has a "court order" to obtain further property from the house and if I do not comply with his wishes he and "the sherriff"will be at my doorstep, on top of all that he is requesting visitation with our daughter........I would really like to call "cousin Vinny" to handle this, but since I do not have one and I would really like to remain a law abiding citizen is there anyone out there who can help me end this nightmare?
This situation is worse than an after school special and I really don't know where to begin except at the beginning. We met while I was still in Nsg school, the ex came to the relationship newly separated/divorced owning only a motorcycle/clothing/and home theatre system and no job--I should have had a "light bulb moment" but was very "young, dumb and full of ....." and at the time very gullible--also recently widowed with three small children, anyway as soon as I graduated and obtained my first position I purchased a house in KY for my children, I am the sole owner of the home, just after purchasing the home the ex and I had a child together, after two years as a local staff nurse and due to financial needs I became a traveling nurse to increase income, the ex did not work, has not held a steady job for more than 12mo out of 11yrs, and never once offered to better himself even after I offered to pay for schooling, much easier for me to work and pay for everything, during the nine years we lived together in ky he was to "remodel" the house while I worked, his "projects" are still not completed, he also became very abusive to my other children, the oldest one especially and I am just recently finding out all of this, he would threaten them while I was gone and not let them call me, I would be away from home one to two weeks at a time and return for anywhere from three to six days before I left again, while I was at home he would act like "mr mom", while I was away he was "Mr Hyde", the move to MO came from his "escapade" with one of my oldest daughters girlfriends, I will boldly admit I have had outside relationships, I have been unhappy in this relationship for the last four to five years and was very upfront/forward with this man about it, but at no time did I have a relationship with an underage minor, nor did any relationship I have threaten the safety, security, and happiness of my children, after moving to MO, I continued to support everyone solely, at no time did the ex pay a single cent toward rent/utilities/food etc.etc., after trying to "start over" for the last 18mo I finally decided that my youngest would have to adjust to having a single parent household, after informing the ex the relationship was not salvagable he informed me he would need until november to vacate the premises, I was agreeable as long as he paid his part of the household bills and left the rest of us alone, he couldn't manage to do that, escalated his aggressive/abusive behaviors and I finally filed an exparte order against him on aug 18, he has proven to be an expert at hiding, I have continued said order since then and he has yet to be served, he as managed to visit my house in ky and take property/tools purchased by me and valued close to $10,000, he has had assistance in visiting the house in Mo while I was at work or running errands with the children and take property from there valued close to $5000, and he has had assistance in dissappearing with the 2004 jeep liberty paid for by me and valued at approx $16,000, he has also harrassed/threatened/ and verbally abused me over the phone, most recently he has showed up at my doorstep in mo with keys in his hand attempting to enter the front door----unbeknownst to him I am not completely stupid and have changed all the locks at both properties--he then presented me with paperwork to "sign over" the jeep to him, if I do not comply with his wishes he has threatened to "take my nursing liscense away", call DFS and report me for neglect because I am never home---I currently work six 12-16hr shifts per week to support my children and clean up the mess he has left, when he took the jeep I lost about $1000 in wages, he damaged my 2002 Dodge Neon driving it for his "courier" job and repairs on that have added up to $2000, not to mention all the "incidental" charges that have accrued with changing locks, cell phone plans, house phone etc. He also threated he would make sure I cannot sell my house in KY--he managed to purchase a very small section of property from a neighbor while I was on an assignment 2-3yrs ago and put it in his name it is attached to the driveway of my property-- he has also told me that he has a "court order" to obtain further property from the house and if I do not comply with his wishes he and "the sherriff"will be at my doorstep, on top of all that he is requesting visitation with our daughter........I would really like to call "cousin Vinny" to handle this, but since I do not have one and I would really like to remain a law abiding citizen is there anyone out there who can help me end this nightmare?
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