exs bf around my son

[Thefallenone]

Jurisdiction

New Hampshire

Not sure what I should do im currently in a custody battle for full custody of my son from my ex after I caught her cheating on me. Its beenbover a year as of january for custody and I do believe I'm on the verge of getting full being my last hearing I presented an audio recording of my ex causing physical harm to my son and the person whom recorded it is testifying against her come the next date to prove that it was infact her in the recording as she resided with that person at that time. So currently in affect is the order that I get my son friday through sunday and also on teusdays and she gets him the other days. Now where my real quistion/issue is that she has a boyfriend whom I don't trust around my son he's almost 2 years old and very impressionable and calls him daddy and she doesn't correct him and I believe this to be a developmental risk as to him understanding whom his real parent is. Also I feel for my sons safety I just recently had the police involved with him for 2 counts of criminal threatening (him threatening to kill me and someone I was hanging out with) of which he pleaded guilty too and just need to get court paperwork of his verdict. I've talked to police and they won't do anything. As a vet for serving in the marine I got set up with a decent lawyer but not sure what to do about getting it so he's not allowed near my son being my lawyer is on vacation any info would be great.

 

[KatDini]

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[army judge]

Not sure what I should do im currently in a custody battle for full custody of my son from my ex after I caught her cheating on me. Its beenbover a year as of january for custody and I do believe I'm on the verge of getting full being my last hearing I presented an audio recording of my ex causing physical harm to my son and the person whom recorded it is testifying against her come the next date to prove that it was infact her in the recording as she resided with that person at that time. So currently in affect is the order that I get my son friday through sunday and also on teusdays and she gets him the other days. Now where my real quistion/issue is that she has a boyfriend whom I don't trust around my son he's almost 2 years old and very impressionable and calls him daddy and she doesn't correct him and I believe this to be a developmental risk as to him understanding whom his real parent is. Also I feel for my sons safety I just recently had the police involved with him for 2 counts of criminal threatening (him threatening to kill me and someone I was hanging out with) of which he pleaded guilty too and just need to get court paperwork of his verdict. I've talked to police and they won't do anything. As a vet for serving in the marine I got set up with a decent lawyer but not sure what to do about getting it so he's not allowed near my son being my lawyer is on vacation any info would be great.



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Talk to your lawyer when you can.

Even if your lawyer was in, nothing will be addressed immediately by the court.

If your child or any person is in danger, call "911".

Generally, the court won't or can't order who a person can date.

As far as I can recall, only SC still persists in placing restrictions around the matter that perturbed you.

However, if the current squeeze is a convicted child molester, courts will often step in to squash that. Even that's not necessary, because convicted child sexual offenders are barred from being around children anyway.

 

[shrinkmaster]

You have a few things going on here. First off getting "full custody" is not easy trick. However if there is proven abuse its more likely than most. The BF issue comes up all the time EXes rare;y approve of the new BF/GF being around child warranted or not. The courts cannot mandate who your EX can date as stated. If you can prove this person places your child at risk there "could" be some restrictions. Referring to BF as "Daddy" could be parental alienation but your Attorney is best one to have that discussion with. In fact if you have an Attorney you dont really need this site much. Now if its any help I belong to a "Parenting and Relationship" forum (link below) that is hosted by this site. There you can talk with other parents who may be through what your going through nd you can hear their stories on how their situations turned out

 

[ElleMD]

If you have a custody agreement or are in the process of negotiating one, you can try to get a clause about not introducing "dates" to the child until some amount of time has passed. Mind you it would be binding on both of you and you may not like that down the road. You not liking him and not getting along with him is not going to be enough to bar contact.

If there is abuse, that can be a factor. "Causing harm" is vague and open to interpretation. If she gave him a spanking, that isn't going to make much difference.