False Pretense?

[tricked]

I've been married for almost 2 years. My husband and I have a 3 year old together. Last year my husband was offered a promotion and we decided as a family to make the move from AZ to OH. I left my family, friends, and a really great paying job for him to get an advancement. Let's just say that he has been hell to live with since then. Last night he told me that he's had it and is filing for divorce. Turns out that he's been keeping a journal of all of my "wrong-doings" since before we moved (and possibly before we married) as well as recorded me when I had a bad night and was mad. He's threatened to turn off my cell phone, kick me out of the house, and sell the car that I am driving that is under his name. I *know* legally he can't do any of that but I'm at a loss. I've been staying home with our son since we moved so I don't have a way to even pay for an attorney if he decides to go through with his threat. My question is does him keeping a journal of all of my wrongdoings since before we moved count as false pretense? If he intended on staying married to me then there is no reason for him to keep any type of documentation, right? I feel like he used marrying me as a way to get me to move back to his home state to be within 2 miles of his family. I'm not sure what else to write except thank you in advance for all responses.

 

[ElleMD]

Not even close. It is a sign that you married the wrong person but keeping track of your wrongdoings over the past several years is not illegal nor will it gain you anything in a divorce. You are grasping at straws and the logic that he married you just to move closer to his family doesn't even make logical sense. The smart move would be to start looking for a job in the event that you find yourself separated/divorced. If the car is in his name and therefore his property, yes, he may sell it. He can cancel cell phones if he is the account holder. No law entitles you to cell service or a car. Kicking you out of the house is slightly more problematic but certainly if he files for divorce, he may ask to keep the house.

I don't know what he recorded but, "I was having a bad day", is not a legal defense. It was also not illegal to record you throwing a fit. Whether it will serve any purpose other than to annoy you is questionable.

 

[army judge]

I've been married for almost 2 years. My husband and I have a 3 year old together. Last year my husband was offered a promotion and we decided as a family to make the move from AZ to OH. I left my family, friends, and a really great paying job for him to get an advancement. Let's just say that he has been hell to live with since then. Last night he told me that he's had it and is filing for divorce. Turns out that he's been keeping a journal of all of my "wrong-doings" since before we moved (and possibly before we married) as well as recorded me when I had a bad night and was mad. He's threatened to turn off my cell phone, kick me out of the house, and sell the car that I am driving that is under his name. I *know* legally he can't do any of that but I'm at a loss. I've been staying home with our son since we moved so I don't have a way to even pay for an attorney if he decides to go through with his threat. My question is does him keeping a journal of all of my wrongdoings since before we moved count as false pretense? If he intended on staying married to me then there is no reason for him to keep any type of documentation, right? I feel like he used marrying me as a way to get me to move back to his home state to be within 2 miles of his family. I'm not sure what else to write except thank you in advance for all responses.

Buck up, madam.
You're an adult.
Who cares what he claims you did?
Come on, if you're unhappy, take your stuff and leave.
You're no one's slave.
Go home where people love you, trust you, and don't bother recording your alleged comings and goings.
Then, file for divorce.
These kinds of creeps have been known to punch, kick, thump, and beat on women.
They're too often to try that on men, just women and kids!
Bums like that creep, make me ashamed of my gender.