To give a little background...
I had just broken up with an ex girlfriend of mine and had no where to go, so my grandmother allowed me to come stay with her... She was with a man from her past at the time, I say it like that because he was not her husband, but a good friend from a long time ago, they both lost their significant others and had come together during this time... So at the time there was my grandmother and him, his name is Fred...
So I lived with my grandmother and Fred for about 2 months roughly when Fred got really sick, we found out he had pancreatic cancer and he literally died within 2 weeks... After he died my grandmother was all alone and she was in need of care... The family checked into how much care would cost and found that it would cost give or take around 7500 a month to have someone in her house 24 hours a day... The family knew it was too much money and grandma did not want to be in a home, so a decision had to be made...
Since I was already in the house with my grandmother I offered to take on the responsibility... The family agreed because at the time I was really the only one who could dedicate that amount of time to her...
The agreement was I would be allowed to live there free of rent and utilities, food included and then a couple of my normal monthly bills, which included my car payment for 280 a month, my internet connection 65 a month and my cell phone 60 a month... Add all this together and this would be my monthly payment for caring for my grandmother... All added up with rent at 350 utils at 100 the total a month she gave to me for her care was approx 1000 a month... I'd be willing to deduct that and any gifts I received from my grandmother from the total amount I feel is owed to me simply because that will be the argument my family makes... My family liked to try and blame me for spending too much money, which never happened, all failed attempts to take over her financials... Honestly I feel it's a money thing for my grandmothers children, my aunt, uncles and mom... To me it was never about the money, I was under the impression that if this type of thing ever came to be I'd be taken care of long enough to get back on my feet... They're giving me 3 months which started a month ago... So I have 2 months left to find a job, get my own place and start paying the bills that were normally covered... It's not a fair deal considering what I've done for my grandmother and I feel they're doing it because they can, we don't get along and it's a spite thing IMO...
Recently my mother and aunt had my grandmother diagnosed with dementia, which to me seems odd because who in their right mind would want to have their parent diagnosed with that? Unless there was a benefit to them of some kind I don't see why anyone would do that and think the main reason they did this was so they could get control of her finances... Which they did, my mom being POA and now with my aunt working with my mom have completely taken over everything... They came to me and basically told me she was not coming back to her home, which she owns and wants to return to anxiously, that they will be selling the house and that I had 3 months to get out, in a nut shell... They offered me what they refer to as a severance pay and said take it or leave it... I barely have enough to buy food, in fact there isn't any food in the house right now, they expect me to get a job when the job market is next to nothing... I've been a care giver for the last 5 years...! Taken little to no pay, no vacations, never went out, did nothing but care for my grandmother and feel like I'm now been taken advantage of by my family when for the last 5 years they were nowhere to be found, that's right they never helped with grandmothers care, they just tried to control everything and at the time Grandma wasn't diagnosed with anything so they couldn't take control... To me it makes perfect sense why they did all this...
At any rate, I feel money is owed to me for the service I provided and I've done some of the research...
It's 12 months per year, for 5 years, professional care is 7500 a month, add all that up comes to 90,000 a year for care, times that by 5 and you get 450,000$... Even if I was considered to be non professional care I would assume some of that amount will still be relevant... As it is now if something isn't done to secure what's owed to me I might never see it and will end up homeless without a job or pot to pee in... I feel i deserve better than that for being her primary care giver for the last 5 years... My grandmother agrees with me on this and is actually the one who suggested I seek a lawyer, even if it means I'd be sewing her in the long run... As it is right now my mother has complete control over all my grandmothers money and the only way I see things loosening up for my grandmother and for me is by taking legal action in order to get what is owed to me...
I'd like to sue for the amount owed to me, not sure how I'd go about doing this, or how I would figure out what exactly is owed, but any recommendations would be great, or if you are a lawyer that can take this sort of case I'd be willing to hear you out... In fact if you are a lawyer and would be interested in perusing this case I'd really like to speak with you or if you know a lawyer who I can call for this I'd appreciate that as well.. I need to work this out within the next 2 months before I'm left with nothing like I said...
Thanks!
I had just broken up with an ex girlfriend of mine and had no where to go, so my grandmother allowed me to come stay with her... She was with a man from her past at the time, I say it like that because he was not her husband, but a good friend from a long time ago, they both lost their significant others and had come together during this time... So at the time there was my grandmother and him, his name is Fred...
So I lived with my grandmother and Fred for about 2 months roughly when Fred got really sick, we found out he had pancreatic cancer and he literally died within 2 weeks... After he died my grandmother was all alone and she was in need of care... The family checked into how much care would cost and found that it would cost give or take around 7500 a month to have someone in her house 24 hours a day... The family knew it was too much money and grandma did not want to be in a home, so a decision had to be made...
Since I was already in the house with my grandmother I offered to take on the responsibility... The family agreed because at the time I was really the only one who could dedicate that amount of time to her...
The agreement was I would be allowed to live there free of rent and utilities, food included and then a couple of my normal monthly bills, which included my car payment for 280 a month, my internet connection 65 a month and my cell phone 60 a month... Add all this together and this would be my monthly payment for caring for my grandmother... All added up with rent at 350 utils at 100 the total a month she gave to me for her care was approx 1000 a month... I'd be willing to deduct that and any gifts I received from my grandmother from the total amount I feel is owed to me simply because that will be the argument my family makes... My family liked to try and blame me for spending too much money, which never happened, all failed attempts to take over her financials... Honestly I feel it's a money thing for my grandmothers children, my aunt, uncles and mom... To me it was never about the money, I was under the impression that if this type of thing ever came to be I'd be taken care of long enough to get back on my feet... They're giving me 3 months which started a month ago... So I have 2 months left to find a job, get my own place and start paying the bills that were normally covered... It's not a fair deal considering what I've done for my grandmother and I feel they're doing it because they can, we don't get along and it's a spite thing IMO...
Recently my mother and aunt had my grandmother diagnosed with dementia, which to me seems odd because who in their right mind would want to have their parent diagnosed with that? Unless there was a benefit to them of some kind I don't see why anyone would do that and think the main reason they did this was so they could get control of her finances... Which they did, my mom being POA and now with my aunt working with my mom have completely taken over everything... They came to me and basically told me she was not coming back to her home, which she owns and wants to return to anxiously, that they will be selling the house and that I had 3 months to get out, in a nut shell... They offered me what they refer to as a severance pay and said take it or leave it... I barely have enough to buy food, in fact there isn't any food in the house right now, they expect me to get a job when the job market is next to nothing... I've been a care giver for the last 5 years...! Taken little to no pay, no vacations, never went out, did nothing but care for my grandmother and feel like I'm now been taken advantage of by my family when for the last 5 years they were nowhere to be found, that's right they never helped with grandmothers care, they just tried to control everything and at the time Grandma wasn't diagnosed with anything so they couldn't take control... To me it makes perfect sense why they did all this...
At any rate, I feel money is owed to me for the service I provided and I've done some of the research...
It's 12 months per year, for 5 years, professional care is 7500 a month, add all that up comes to 90,000 a year for care, times that by 5 and you get 450,000$... Even if I was considered to be non professional care I would assume some of that amount will still be relevant... As it is now if something isn't done to secure what's owed to me I might never see it and will end up homeless without a job or pot to pee in... I feel i deserve better than that for being her primary care giver for the last 5 years... My grandmother agrees with me on this and is actually the one who suggested I seek a lawyer, even if it means I'd be sewing her in the long run... As it is right now my mother has complete control over all my grandmothers money and the only way I see things loosening up for my grandmother and for me is by taking legal action in order to get what is owed to me...
I'd like to sue for the amount owed to me, not sure how I'd go about doing this, or how I would figure out what exactly is owed, but any recommendations would be great, or if you are a lawyer that can take this sort of case I'd be willing to hear you out... In fact if you are a lawyer and would be interested in perusing this case I'd really like to speak with you or if you know a lawyer who I can call for this I'd appreciate that as well.. I need to work this out within the next 2 months before I'm left with nothing like I said...
Thanks!
