Please help
My boyfriend has gotten into a very messy situation. For months his parents have tried to force him into impatient care using blackmail or anything. He is 21 and has honestly been unmotivated for awhile but since we met he has changed. He works, saves money, and has quit smoking doesn't even drink. He has been living with his mother however was honestly a week away from moving into his own apartment. His parents however have viewed him as nothing but a "F**K up" as his father has told him repeatedly and his mother has looked for attention from him ever since his brother left the house and went to college. He hardly had a relationship with his parents his friends parents have more of a relationship with him and I know him better than her. The mother is however convinced that she knows her son more and knows whats best in an eerie sort of way. This past Sunday she crept around him and grabbed his prepaid cellphone which he pays for and told him that he'll get it back after he fixes her windows. He was in the middle of taking care of his apartment needs and wanted to talk to me so he went up to her and said "I just took all your pills so give me my cellphone back" He ofcourse was lying and it was a stupid ploy to get his phone back since she stole it from him. However she used this as her chance to call the cops and told them that her son tried to commit suicide. I even called the house and she answered and her response was "This isn't a game you can't just pretend about this stuff and now Samm is going to learn his lesson" and hung up. I eventually got back in touch and he was told that he had to stay at the hospital for observation however this is because the mother kept talking. He had a few cuts on his arm that she overnight came into his room and rolled up his sleeve and discovered and pointed this out to the doctors and told them that his psychologist that she forced him to go to for a court case he has, diagnosed him bipolar and he is very unstable. Each time he convinced the doctors he was free to go the doctors talked to the mom and she convinced them to make him stay. He was then forced into impatient care at Silver Hills. He has been going along with everything hoping to get out soon since there is no real reason to keep him there and its supposed to be only one week. The doctor even told him he would get out by Monday. However his mother came by to visit him. He went along with her conversation and asked for his debit card so he can take care of his bills and she proceeded to say "Its okay i already transfered all your money to my account you just want it so you can give it to your girlfriend." She also convinced the doctor to make him stay there longer and for the doctor to recommend outpatient. The doctor continued to say that he would get out and live with his mother and do outpatient after the inpatient and took back the getting out within a week. The doctor actually told him "Its better to just go along with everything or else I'll just tell the courts and you'll be arrested." He's 21 hasn't done anything really wrong but his mother seems to be controlling the show. He needs help. He wants to know how he can get out of this. He's scared since his mom is controlling his life and manipulated things her way. He has an apartment to pay rent for debts to pay. He's losing his jobs. His mom is trying to keep him away from his girlfriend as well. He needs to get out of this as soon as possible. Possibly even put a restraining order on his mother. He wants to know if there is a way out of the inpatient and if his mother truly has control over him even though he's 21. He can not attend the outpatient. In fact the parents are the one paying for all of this. He is doing it all involuntarily. However he is doing what he can including attending the group sessions participating and taking the medication hoping if he's good they'll let him out. He needs help. Especially with the mother situation and the fact that she took his money from his debit card without permission.
Please help. Thank you
My boyfriend has gotten into a very messy situation. For months his parents have tried to force him into impatient care using blackmail or anything. He is 21 and has honestly been unmotivated for awhile but since we met he has changed. He works, saves money, and has quit smoking doesn't even drink. He has been living with his mother however was honestly a week away from moving into his own apartment. His parents however have viewed him as nothing but a "F**K up" as his father has told him repeatedly and his mother has looked for attention from him ever since his brother left the house and went to college. He hardly had a relationship with his parents his friends parents have more of a relationship with him and I know him better than her. The mother is however convinced that she knows her son more and knows whats best in an eerie sort of way. This past Sunday she crept around him and grabbed his prepaid cellphone which he pays for and told him that he'll get it back after he fixes her windows. He was in the middle of taking care of his apartment needs and wanted to talk to me so he went up to her and said "I just took all your pills so give me my cellphone back" He ofcourse was lying and it was a stupid ploy to get his phone back since she stole it from him. However she used this as her chance to call the cops and told them that her son tried to commit suicide. I even called the house and she answered and her response was "This isn't a game you can't just pretend about this stuff and now Samm is going to learn his lesson" and hung up. I eventually got back in touch and he was told that he had to stay at the hospital for observation however this is because the mother kept talking. He had a few cuts on his arm that she overnight came into his room and rolled up his sleeve and discovered and pointed this out to the doctors and told them that his psychologist that she forced him to go to for a court case he has, diagnosed him bipolar and he is very unstable. Each time he convinced the doctors he was free to go the doctors talked to the mom and she convinced them to make him stay. He was then forced into impatient care at Silver Hills. He has been going along with everything hoping to get out soon since there is no real reason to keep him there and its supposed to be only one week. The doctor even told him he would get out by Monday. However his mother came by to visit him. He went along with her conversation and asked for his debit card so he can take care of his bills and she proceeded to say "Its okay i already transfered all your money to my account you just want it so you can give it to your girlfriend." She also convinced the doctor to make him stay there longer and for the doctor to recommend outpatient. The doctor continued to say that he would get out and live with his mother and do outpatient after the inpatient and took back the getting out within a week. The doctor actually told him "Its better to just go along with everything or else I'll just tell the courts and you'll be arrested." He's 21 hasn't done anything really wrong but his mother seems to be controlling the show. He needs help. He wants to know how he can get out of this. He's scared since his mom is controlling his life and manipulated things her way. He has an apartment to pay rent for debts to pay. He's losing his jobs. His mom is trying to keep him away from his girlfriend as well. He needs to get out of this as soon as possible. Possibly even put a restraining order on his mother. He wants to know if there is a way out of the inpatient and if his mother truly has control over him even though he's 21. He can not attend the outpatient. In fact the parents are the one paying for all of this. He is doing it all involuntarily. However he is doing what he can including attending the group sessions participating and taking the medication hoping if he's good they'll let him out. He needs help. Especially with the mother situation and the fact that she took his money from his debit card without permission.
Please help. Thank you
