gongamonga
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My husband and I are in a very stressfull situation. We have told his mother she can no longer see our children until she receives psychological help. She is incredibly manipualtive, can be very cruel, and has some real issues. Our oldest child does not want to see her anymore because she thinks her grandmother is mean. In the past, every phone conversation with her grandmother ended with her in tears. My mother in law has threatened to take us to court. We are an intact family, married for over 15 years. We have two children one of whom has some special needs. My husband is a retired decorated army officer and professional; I am a stay at home mom. She did take one of my husband's brothers to court over his kids, so we know she is capable of following through on her threat. She has an excellent public reputation, but know one outside of some family members knows what she is really like. We know she has told some horrible lies to people about us. If she feels crossed, she takes a "scorched earth policy." She did the same thing to my husband's brother before she took him to court.
Quite frankly, she is a scarey person. My husband had a problem with her calling his coworkers up to 5 times a day during working hours demanding to speak to him. She contiues to send letters and packages despite my husband telling her in writing to stop contacting us. Everything she sends stays unopened and goes into a closet. We don't know whether to send the stuff back or if we should keep it in the event she takes us to court. We are residents of NC; she is a NY resident. What rights does she have to our children? What happens if she files a lawsuit for visitation? What is the best thing to do with the packages, letters, etc.? Do we send them back? Should we sign for them or refuse delivery on future packages? This is so stressful. To think that our kids could be forced to spend time with her scares us.
Thanks for your help.
Quite frankly, she is a scarey person. My husband had a problem with her calling his coworkers up to 5 times a day during working hours demanding to speak to him. She contiues to send letters and packages despite my husband telling her in writing to stop contacting us. Everything she sends stays unopened and goes into a closet. We don't know whether to send the stuff back or if we should keep it in the event she takes us to court. We are residents of NC; she is a NY resident. What rights does she have to our children? What happens if she files a lawsuit for visitation? What is the best thing to do with the packages, letters, etc.? Do we send them back? Should we sign for them or refuse delivery on future packages? This is so stressful. To think that our kids could be forced to spend time with her scares us.
Thanks for your help.
