Harassing Ex -usband

[Idothis4mymom]

My mother filed for divorce about two months ago and for the past month I've needed to stay with her because he was making frequent visits. During this past month he has raised quite a bit of hell, from calling distant members in my family and telling them very wrong and profane things, to making an anonymous call to the police dept., claiming my mother was sleeping with her students and what not. Before I got here he broke into the house a couple times, once to take a copy of keys my mom had when she changed her locks, he got in through the doggie door. At any rate I'm very concerned for my mother well being. I would like to go back home but her ex-husband has shown he will stop at nothing to make his presence linger. After filing for a restraining order what is the next course of action to ensure my mothers safety?

 

[Proserpina]

Here's the problem - your Mom illegally changed the locks. Until a court awards her exclusive use of the marital home, neither party has to move, and neither party can change the locks. This is true no matter who owns the home or is named on the lease.

I'm not seeing anything to warrant a restraining order and because she is in the wrong regarding the locks she may want to rethink that idea unless she is in definite danger. She can get into trouble herself.

 

[Idothis4mymom]

Thank you so much for the quick response. So what are the most common and/or good grounds to file a restraining order? He's left bruisers on her before, which have already been photographed and verified by a doctor. And after the standard requirements are met, what are the following steps that should be taken afterwards, should he violate it? They had no children together and he is guilty of countless offenses of adultery. He constantly badgers me, my mom, and my Aunt constantly, via calls and texts. Is it actually legal to badger as much as you want without any repercussions? This are inquisitive questions, not agitated ones. I appreciate your time and would like just a little bit more of your insight please. Thank you so much.

 

[Proserpina]

Actual abuse and threats. Recent. And proof does not mean a doctor took photos - because all that proves is she has bruises. It does not prove how they got there.

Harassment which doesn't fall under the category of "They are only 2 months into a divorce action and there's bound to be at least some animosity".

Adultery is a complete non issue.

Neither of you has to accept his calls or texts. Same with Aunt.

(In fact, that appears to be the easiest and most effective plan of action: Stop taking his texts or calls)

 

[Betty3]

Can you all block his number to stop the calls/texts?