Harrasment - forced to drink?

[kakelly2164]

Hi. Can your boss make you go for drinks after dinner and stay longer than you wanted? My husband is travelling now on business and his new boss constantly makes them go out for dinner, drinks and sometimes they have to go to strip clubs! Last night he witnessed his boss wanting to fight with the VP of ops. they litterally stepped outside the club they were at. He feels that if he doesnt go along they will fire him. They fired his former boss and said she was not a team player because she did not want to go for dinner and drinks. Is this legal. He is so stressed out, we need his income and he feels completely trapped. Please help. This just cant be ok...

 

[presutin]

Certain company corporate cultures are like the ones that your husband is exposed to. This is when, at the interviewing stages, he should have asked about the company's culture and what is expected of him when it comes to socialization. Your husband always has the choice of saying no to those outings because of personal reasons without him feeling that he is going to be fired because of his refusal to participate in these events.

 

[kakelly2164]

Thanks. But he was promoted. His former boss was not this way. This is the president of the company acting this way. If you do not go along you get chastized in the meeting and made to feel like crap. Is this legal?

 

[presutin]

In this case, he has to convey the message that, no matter what position you are in, you need to treat your coworkers with respect and dignity. Leading by example always sends the right message.

 

[cbg]

I don't disagree with presutin overall, but the bottom line here is that if he is fired for refusing to participate in these events, it is legal.

It is legal because there is no law that says he cannot be fired for this reason.