HELP 18, pregnant and married.

[BrittneyMarieK]

I am so stressed out, I have about lost my mind.
I am 18, unemployed and currently five and half months pregnant.
My husband is 37, employed and very successful.
I want a divorce, I honestly never even wanted to get married and was just trying to do the right thing for my baby but I realize now how stupid that was.
Everything was so rushed, we were only together for two months before I got pregnant and I do not love him or feel comfortable around him.
My situation is so complex. I want to move back home with my family but they are not very financially capable. He insist that I live with him from now until a year after the baby is born and I feel so uncomfortable and unhappy about that option. I am not even excited for my daughter to be born because I know he will be lurking over me and I will be living under his roof.
This man creeps me out and I feel so much stress and tension around him, this isn't okay.
I want to file for divorce immediately, but how will I afford the filing fee?
I understand there is a free waver available in California but can I qualify since my spouse makes over 90,000 a year?
Once I am in the divorce process with I be able to ask the judge to grant me some type of support until I get on my feet?
Will my daughter get taken from me if I have roof over my head but no income?

Please help me.

 

[army judge]

I am so stressed out, I have about lost my mind.
I am 18, unemployed and currently five and half months pregnant.
My husband is 37, employed and very successful.
I want a divorce, I honestly never even wanted to get married and was just trying to do the right thing for my baby but I realize now how stupid that was.
Everything was so rushed, we were only together for two months before I got pregnant and I do not love him or feel comfortable around him.
My situation is so complex. I want to move back home with my family but they are not very financially capable. He insist that I live with him from now until a year after the baby is born and I feel so uncomfortable and unhappy about that option. I am not even excited for my daughter to be born because I know he will be lurking over me and I will be living under his roof.
This man creeps me out and I feel so much stress and tension around him, this isn't okay.
I want to file for divorce immediately, but how will I afford the filing fee?
I understand there is a free waver available in California but can I qualify since my spouse makes over 90,000 a year?
Once I am in the divorce process with I be able to ask the judge to grant me some type of support until I get on my feet?
Will my daughter get taken from me if I have roof over my head but no income?

Please help me.

I suggest you do the following:

Go speak with a good divorce attorney. Ask your friends, family, acquaintances for the names of good divorce attorneys.

You won't need money, because a good attorney will be able to obtain emergency spousal support for you and the baby. The attorney will be able to get paid out of the marital estate. Don't worry about that, ask your lawyer.

Until the money is flowing to you, why not move in with family, a relative, or a friend? Or, find a women's shelter, or home for expectant mothers.

You don't have to live in fear or loathing. You are free to leave, and if you fear for your safety, just go.

 

[BrittneyMarieK]

Thank you. I plan on going to my hometown where my mother and grandmother live. I have a free consultation with a lawyer next week, so hopefully I will find out more information. I am not fearful of him, he is a great guy...I just really do not want to live with him and feel like I am being forced to live uncomfortably. Thank you so much for letting me know I do not have to stay.

 

[army judge]

Thank you. I plan on going to my hometown where my mother and grandmother live. I have a free consultation with a lawyer next week, so hopefully I will find out more information. I am not fearful of him, he is a great guy...I just really do not want to live with him and feel like I am being forced to live uncomfortably. Thank you so much for letting me know I do not have to stay.

Bully for you.

Notice I said you don't have to live in FEAR or LOATHING.

I suspected yours was more a case of LOATHING, than FEAR.

But, others read these threads.

Some are afraid to post.

So, I try to answer them broadly, to reach those that are too scared, afraid, or embarrassed to post.

 

[Proserpina]

The only thing I'd question is spousal support. She's been married for mere months - even in CA it's incredibly unlikely she'd even get emergency spousal support.

She just needs to go. And preferably before the child is born unless she wants to be even more stressed.

 

[disagreeable]

I am going to remain politely silent on this one.