Hi. I am looking for some advice on how to handle an ex houseguest & his left behind property.
In December 2009 we invited my partner's biological father to live with us from Florida. He had abandoned my partner and her mother shortly after she was born, so he was more of less a stranger to both of us. He has MS, is a recovering drug addict & former alcoholic. His family in Florida had given up trying to help him. He was not seeing a doctor, much less a neurologist & we agreed to open our home to him and try to help him find better medical care, make sure he got back and forth to the doctor etc...
Soon after he arrived we realized that he needed way more care than we could provide. He fell a lot, could not bathe himself, could not use the bathroom unassisted most of the time, took his medication wrong, those types of things. In general, he was just not upfront about his condition. Soon after he arrived, he began being hostile if we suggested he try an assisted living facility or a nursing home. I think he may actually have some undiagnosed mental disorders. As he did some really odd things. He can't walk, yet he ordered a motorcycle from the internet! We have a 5 year old daughter that we felt was in danger if he lived with us much longer. On top of his anger, he dropped pills & refused to keep them put up, ordered pornographic movies & left them playing on the TV knowing my daughter was home (It took everything I had not to physically throw him out on the street myself after this one). We finally had enough one day & I called the police after he threatened me. They convinced him to go to the hospital for evaluation. He went with a police escort.
I explained to the social workers that We could not handle him & were not equipped to provide the almost 24 hour care he really needed. After he left the hospital, he went to an acute care facility & The staff there that deemed him able to make medical decisions for himself & He said he didn't want to be there. They told us they had no choice but to let him leave if that's what he wanted. He stopped returning our calls (He was pretty angry with us for telling the social workers that he could not care for himself). We called the facility after they told us he rented a car & left. He still hasn't called either of us, but in calling around to other family members, apparently he is staying at hotels & is convinced we were stealing from him/ selling his pills etc. which is about the most insulting thing I have ever heard, after everything we had done for him. Now I need legal advice...
We are renting a house (one which we moved to to better accommodate his needs) and our lease is up for renewal. We don't plan to stay in this house if it is just us living there. we have no use for the suite downstairs that he used & would rather not renew the lease. He has belongings in the house that I'd like to have removed. I don't want to have to move them to our new place. I also don't want to pay to store them indefinitely. I have called his other family & they pretty much all told me he was crazy & they don't want to deal with any of it.
I don't have an address to send any kind of notice to, he won't return any phone calls. What can I do? Most of the items don't really have any value. I'd say about 85-90% of it really needs to be thrown out. I wouldn't even donate it. Is there an amount of time that needs to pass before this stuff is considered abandoned? If I go to the courthouse & file for an eviction, which I have heard I may need to do, would I need to provide them with an address? what if he is just kind of on the run?
Thanks for reading all this. I'm at my wits end.
In December 2009 we invited my partner's biological father to live with us from Florida. He had abandoned my partner and her mother shortly after she was born, so he was more of less a stranger to both of us. He has MS, is a recovering drug addict & former alcoholic. His family in Florida had given up trying to help him. He was not seeing a doctor, much less a neurologist & we agreed to open our home to him and try to help him find better medical care, make sure he got back and forth to the doctor etc...
Soon after he arrived we realized that he needed way more care than we could provide. He fell a lot, could not bathe himself, could not use the bathroom unassisted most of the time, took his medication wrong, those types of things. In general, he was just not upfront about his condition. Soon after he arrived, he began being hostile if we suggested he try an assisted living facility or a nursing home. I think he may actually have some undiagnosed mental disorders. As he did some really odd things. He can't walk, yet he ordered a motorcycle from the internet! We have a 5 year old daughter that we felt was in danger if he lived with us much longer. On top of his anger, he dropped pills & refused to keep them put up, ordered pornographic movies & left them playing on the TV knowing my daughter was home (It took everything I had not to physically throw him out on the street myself after this one). We finally had enough one day & I called the police after he threatened me. They convinced him to go to the hospital for evaluation. He went with a police escort.
I explained to the social workers that We could not handle him & were not equipped to provide the almost 24 hour care he really needed. After he left the hospital, he went to an acute care facility & The staff there that deemed him able to make medical decisions for himself & He said he didn't want to be there. They told us they had no choice but to let him leave if that's what he wanted. He stopped returning our calls (He was pretty angry with us for telling the social workers that he could not care for himself). We called the facility after they told us he rented a car & left. He still hasn't called either of us, but in calling around to other family members, apparently he is staying at hotels & is convinced we were stealing from him/ selling his pills etc. which is about the most insulting thing I have ever heard, after everything we had done for him. Now I need legal advice...
We are renting a house (one which we moved to to better accommodate his needs) and our lease is up for renewal. We don't plan to stay in this house if it is just us living there. we have no use for the suite downstairs that he used & would rather not renew the lease. He has belongings in the house that I'd like to have removed. I don't want to have to move them to our new place. I also don't want to pay to store them indefinitely. I have called his other family & they pretty much all told me he was crazy & they don't want to deal with any of it.
I don't have an address to send any kind of notice to, he won't return any phone calls. What can I do? Most of the items don't really have any value. I'd say about 85-90% of it really needs to be thrown out. I wouldn't even donate it. Is there an amount of time that needs to pass before this stuff is considered abandoned? If I go to the courthouse & file for an eviction, which I have heard I may need to do, would I need to provide them with an address? what if he is just kind of on the run?
Thanks for reading all this. I'm at my wits end.