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[zfireman]

i am a single dad of 2. a 14 year old boy and a 12 yearold girl. i have 50/50 custody and pay no child support. my daughter is refusing to go to her moms house.i call her mom,e mail her mom to try and sort this mess out,but she refuses to talk to me.my daughter has spoken to the attorney at liedem and she told my daughter the the court order has been signed and that there is nothing that she can do. i call my attorney and she tells me to keep sending e mails to my ex wife and ask when is she comming to pick my daughter up. i would take her over to her mothers house but she is never there and i dont want to leave her alone.(i just found a little empty bag of pot in my daughters pocket,she was in her mothers care). am in violation of the court order for not taking her to her mothers. do you think i should get a guardien at liedem?. im at my witts end. please help.


thanks
chris

 

[jimmysgirl]

i am a single dad of 2. a 14 year old boy and a 12 yearold girl. i have 50/50 custody and pay no child support. my daughter is refusing to go to her moms house.i call her mom,e mail her mom to try and sort this mess out,but she refuses to talk to me.my daughter has spoken to the attorney at liedem and she told my daughter the the court order has been signed and that there is nothing that she can do. i call my attorney and she tells me to keep sending e mails to my ex wife and ask when is she comming to pick my daughter up. i would take her over to her mothers house but she is never there and i dont want to leave her alone.(i just found a little empty bag of pot in my daughters pocket,she was in her mothers care). am in violation of the court order for not taking her to her mothers. do you think i should get a guardien at liedem?. im at my witts end. please help.


thanks
chris

for the next six years, untill your daughter is 18, she cannot legally refuse to see her mom when its mom's time, or you could end up being the parent with visitation instead of 50/50 custody. your daughter is a child, and she does not dictate what she does. what i would do is take your daughter there, and if mom's not there, leave her a note saying that you brought your daughter and she wasnt home, that way she cant claim that you are withholding visitaion.but your daughter doesnt get to decide.

 

[calalily]

Document all your attempts at contact. Keep a running log of dates and times you called, emailed, and attempted to take your daughter to the house and the mother was not at home. Explain to your daughter the ramifications of what could happen if she doesn't go...how you will get in trouble with court and so on and could lose the 50/50. By explaining, maybe your daughter will be more cooperative.