SugarSpunSister
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Hi all, never in a million years thought I'd have to deal with this, but here goes...
I work in a pub/club as a barmaid, and recently the owners have employed their son in a similar position. Last week he came into the pub drunk on a night out, and was clearly very drunk. He came behind the bar to get his coat(which he shouldn't have done anyway) and on his way out proceeded to grab my erm... Posterior and give me a cheeky wink. I mentioned this to the bar manager who proceeded to give him his second warning for inapproptriate behaviour (the first was for harassing and even following home a customer).
Once recieved his warning I was happy that was that. However when I went into work next and looked at the rota (which was done by the offending staff members mother) I noticed I only had one shift that week, as opposed to the usual 3/4. I guessed this was petty revenge and was willing to jus let it slide until I recieved a phone calltoday off my manager informing me that matters were getting out of hand and we needed a chat. I've just got back from meeting the two managers, where I have learned the full situation, as outlned below:
1: both the owner and his wife believe that the incident was "an accident" and "didn't happen", even though it has been witnessed on CCTV by the two managers and assistant manager (and obviously experienced by myself)
2: this footage has now been deleted from the CCTV records and a password has been applied so neither of the managers can gain access
3: during phone call between one of the managers and the owner, it was claimed the owners were "trying to get rid of me" due to my filing a complaint against their son
4: the owners wife has made dispariging remarks about me, along the lines of "I've seen the women my son goes out with, why would he make sexualadvances towards her?"
Essentially, I'm being pushed out of my job for making a sexual harassment complaint.
there's probably more, but Im so angry right now my mind isn't quite straight. What's the best course of action? I plan to go to the citizens advice beaureu first thing tomorrow but do you guys have any other ideas? any advice or help would be much appreciated!
(And very sorry for the inevitable typos, I'm posting from my phone)
I work in a pub/club as a barmaid, and recently the owners have employed their son in a similar position. Last week he came into the pub drunk on a night out, and was clearly very drunk. He came behind the bar to get his coat(which he shouldn't have done anyway) and on his way out proceeded to grab my erm... Posterior and give me a cheeky wink. I mentioned this to the bar manager who proceeded to give him his second warning for inapproptriate behaviour (the first was for harassing and even following home a customer).
Once recieved his warning I was happy that was that. However when I went into work next and looked at the rota (which was done by the offending staff members mother) I noticed I only had one shift that week, as opposed to the usual 3/4. I guessed this was petty revenge and was willing to jus let it slide until I recieved a phone calltoday off my manager informing me that matters were getting out of hand and we needed a chat. I've just got back from meeting the two managers, where I have learned the full situation, as outlned below:
1: both the owner and his wife believe that the incident was "an accident" and "didn't happen", even though it has been witnessed on CCTV by the two managers and assistant manager (and obviously experienced by myself)
2: this footage has now been deleted from the CCTV records and a password has been applied so neither of the managers can gain access
3: during phone call between one of the managers and the owner, it was claimed the owners were "trying to get rid of me" due to my filing a complaint against their son
4: the owners wife has made dispariging remarks about me, along the lines of "I've seen the women my son goes out with, why would he make sexualadvances towards her?"
Essentially, I'm being pushed out of my job for making a sexual harassment complaint.
there's probably more, but Im so angry right now my mind isn't quite straight. What's the best course of action? I plan to go to the citizens advice beaureu first thing tomorrow but do you guys have any other ideas? any advice or help would be much appreciated!
(And very sorry for the inevitable typos, I'm posting from my phone)
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