Hello, i could use some quick advice because this home living situation here is becoming unbearable, im at the point where i dont want to live here or live at all and becoming sort of desperate to find relief. I live in Los Angeles with my father, and my dad got married almost 2 years ago
i met my step mother almost a year ago in iran, and since ive been living around her, i have not seen one period of time where she does not throw fits. She could be fine for several days, but after a while she just makes an excuse for an argument. my dad has filed for divorce against her back in Iran, because thats where they are married. He got sick of her so he did it, and came back to California alone, after me. My step mom remained in iran as my dad told her to stay so he could stabilize my situation like working and going to school. She stayed there for some weeks, and went to germany because she lived there before and is a citizen there.
Not long after, she was getting on a plane from germany and told my dad that same day when she was at the airport coming to California. 12 hours later, she lands in LA and has been staying with us since. I really dont mind my dad getting remarried, my bio-mother did it so i got used to a step parent, but this lady is insane. You would think in the majority of these middle eastern couples that the man has the advantage and the woman is being bullied around but in fact the opposite is true. She bullies him, yells at him, throws things at him, has locked him in the bedroom before, demands things of him, makes him go get her money from an ATM when shes feeling the pinch, and above all asks him to do things for her like get her a credit card, get her an American greencard and for what? so she can be stronger and a recognized person in the US so she can mess with us even worse?
My dad says shes only come to America with us to get a greencard, get a lawyer and divorce my dad to take him for what hes got to lose. i have thought he was just being paranoid but i notice she questions wheres his been, acts suspicious about my dads whereabouts and actions CONSTANTLY, and won't seem to let us have peace for more then a couple days or so. She'll throw an argument over anything, seriously. My dad even says from all the relationships he's ever been in, he's never been with anyone this angry or verbally abusive.
Our biggest problem: she lives with us in this house. shes been here over about a month now, and my father and i want out. I've told my dad several times, we should wait for her to throw a fit and call the authorities if she were to go out of control, but he always says no no, she'll bruise herself and tell the police he hit her, and they will take my dad to jail. I try to assure my dad he has more rights then the responsibility of taking care of your spouse, which has been used only for purposes to support her nefarious schemes.
My dad is trying to rent our house out so if she even brings up that shes his wife and he has to take of her therefore enforcing her right to remain at his residence, so wont be obligated to let her stay or continue to live with her . Do we really have to go through the trouble of renting our house, me going to live at some strangers house as a room mate and my dad going to stay in a hotel - just to get rid of this monster?
please tell me what to do, i have never experienced this much grief ever or seen my dad bear that much of it.
i met my step mother almost a year ago in iran, and since ive been living around her, i have not seen one period of time where she does not throw fits. She could be fine for several days, but after a while she just makes an excuse for an argument. my dad has filed for divorce against her back in Iran, because thats where they are married. He got sick of her so he did it, and came back to California alone, after me. My step mom remained in iran as my dad told her to stay so he could stabilize my situation like working and going to school. She stayed there for some weeks, and went to germany because she lived there before and is a citizen there.
Not long after, she was getting on a plane from germany and told my dad that same day when she was at the airport coming to California. 12 hours later, she lands in LA and has been staying with us since. I really dont mind my dad getting remarried, my bio-mother did it so i got used to a step parent, but this lady is insane. You would think in the majority of these middle eastern couples that the man has the advantage and the woman is being bullied around but in fact the opposite is true. She bullies him, yells at him, throws things at him, has locked him in the bedroom before, demands things of him, makes him go get her money from an ATM when shes feeling the pinch, and above all asks him to do things for her like get her a credit card, get her an American greencard and for what? so she can be stronger and a recognized person in the US so she can mess with us even worse?
My dad says shes only come to America with us to get a greencard, get a lawyer and divorce my dad to take him for what hes got to lose. i have thought he was just being paranoid but i notice she questions wheres his been, acts suspicious about my dads whereabouts and actions CONSTANTLY, and won't seem to let us have peace for more then a couple days or so. She'll throw an argument over anything, seriously. My dad even says from all the relationships he's ever been in, he's never been with anyone this angry or verbally abusive.
Our biggest problem: she lives with us in this house. shes been here over about a month now, and my father and i want out. I've told my dad several times, we should wait for her to throw a fit and call the authorities if she were to go out of control, but he always says no no, she'll bruise herself and tell the police he hit her, and they will take my dad to jail. I try to assure my dad he has more rights then the responsibility of taking care of your spouse, which has been used only for purposes to support her nefarious schemes.
My dad is trying to rent our house out so if she even brings up that shes his wife and he has to take of her therefore enforcing her right to remain at his residence, so wont be obligated to let her stay or continue to live with her . Do we really have to go through the trouble of renting our house, me going to live at some strangers house as a room mate and my dad going to stay in a hotel - just to get rid of this monster?
please tell me what to do, i have never experienced this much grief ever or seen my dad bear that much of it.
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