How can I get my brother to acknowledge me as a co-executor of our mother's will?

[theriverendsthere]

I am listed on my mother's will as a potential co-executor if one of my two brother's bows out of the task. One of my brothers is doing just that, but neither one of them will acknowledge that I am to take on the role--they would prefer the one brother do everything himself. Also, since Mom's death, my siblings have taken considerable advantage of meI was told I had to surrender copies of the keys to the family house (where my daughter and I still live) and that I had to front the money for Mom's funeral (which everyone swears they will repay), as well as numerous falsehoods they are telling people, even the lawyer who had Mom's will (whom they feel is ripping them off by asking for a $5000 probate fee). My daughter and I moved back home with Mom in 1997 when my husband left, while my siblings all had houses and spouses of their own all these years. We paid for most of the utilities and up-keep, and when Mom was stricken with cancer 6 years ago, we took total care of her until her death. I don't want to lay claim to anything--the house is over 50 years old and falling apart--I just want to have the truth on my side so I will no longer be taken advantage of. If I am acknowledged as a co-executor, will this hinder my brother's infringement on my personal life, etc? Any advice you can offer would be gratefully appreciated. Thank you in advance!

 

[army judge]

I don't understand what you're asking.

But, I'll proceed with what I think you're asking.

Until one of the co-executors steps aside, you're SOL.

As far as fronting money for your mom's funeral, what's the issue? Are you really gonna ask those deadbeat siblings to pay you back? Go ahead and ask.

They can ask you for the keys. You can refuse. You have as much right to the home as they do. The only way they can legally oust you is by eviction.

I'm not sure a judge wouldn't side with you. In the end, a judge will order the home to be sold and the proceeds divided evenly amongst you all. Anyway, an eviction could take 2-3 months to play out.