winterstorm
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My husband is alcoholic and stopped drinking for a number of years while the children were small. He is now drinking again, "disappearing" for hours at a time into our 16 year old son's room where he keeps a small refrigerator with his supply. They lock the door, listen to music, and refuse to open the door or answer texts or phone calls.
My husband emerges, drunk as a hobo. He often lets the younger kids know what a bitch their mother is during a drunken monologue. He has also told them not to listen to me because I have undiagnosed bipolarity and suffer from pathological lying. (No one else has ever said either of these of me, including three counselors we have seen)
Our 16 year old son had substance abuse and depression issues at 15 and was hospitalized for them. He has now started lying/denying along with his dad, saying his father was not drinking, did not have wine or beer in the refrigerator, and that I am out "to get" his dad. Visitors to our house and the other kids HAVE seen not only my husband's drunkeness (staggering, weeping, falling down), but the wine and beer in the refrigerator)
I am trying to save money to leave my husband, but it may take another year. I am sick with worry about the lying my 16 year old is now doing to protect is father. It's this weird, twisted kind of bonding they have, and I am not sure whether or not the 16 year old is drinking. He uses tons of breath sprays and body sprays and does not appear drunk, but I do suspect he is drinking with dad.
To top all of this off, last night he crawled into our 12 year old daughter's bed. I was awake and immediately removed her from the room. He passed out and called me perverse for removing her. Now I am sick with worry for both these kids, but I am not sure who to call or what to do.
My husband emerges, drunk as a hobo. He often lets the younger kids know what a bitch their mother is during a drunken monologue. He has also told them not to listen to me because I have undiagnosed bipolarity and suffer from pathological lying. (No one else has ever said either of these of me, including three counselors we have seen)
Our 16 year old son had substance abuse and depression issues at 15 and was hospitalized for them. He has now started lying/denying along with his dad, saying his father was not drinking, did not have wine or beer in the refrigerator, and that I am out "to get" his dad. Visitors to our house and the other kids HAVE seen not only my husband's drunkeness (staggering, weeping, falling down), but the wine and beer in the refrigerator)
I am trying to save money to leave my husband, but it may take another year. I am sick with worry about the lying my 16 year old is now doing to protect is father. It's this weird, twisted kind of bonding they have, and I am not sure whether or not the 16 year old is drinking. He uses tons of breath sprays and body sprays and does not appear drunk, but I do suspect he is drinking with dad.
To top all of this off, last night he crawled into our 12 year old daughter's bed. I was awake and immediately removed her from the room. He passed out and called me perverse for removing her. Now I am sick with worry for both these kids, but I am not sure who to call or what to do.
