Hi, my name is Tiffany and I am 17 years old. I live in Lafayette, Louisiana. I live with my grandmother, and I have been living with her since I was around 8 months old. The story I was told was that my birth mother didn't want me anymore and so she gave me up. Which I have recently found out was a lie. My mother did want me just she didn't have enough money to take care of me or defend herself when my grandmother( my moms mother) took her to court.
Things in my house have not been easy for me. I have an older sister who is 18 and is very successful. She makes good grades, she is very smart, and also goes to LSU Collage. Me on the other hand has not been so gifted in school. Which makes my grandmother really mad. She yells at me and tells me all the time that I need to be more like my sister. Which honestly makes me very upset. We are always fighting over stupid little things for as long as I could remember. I believe some things that she has told me is emotional abuse. (Ex: "Your so stupid" , "You will never go anywheres in life", "You will end up in jail before you are even 18" ... Etc.)
Recently, for the past few months I got in touch with my birth mother. Just to ask about why she didn't want me. Since that was the story I was told. I just wanted some answers. What she told me surprised me a lot.
Well, She told me everything that happened and how she loves me very much. She has told me multiply times if I want to go live with her then I can. One point the fighting at my house got extremely bad. To the point that I want to move out of this house. She told me that I CANNOT move out of this house until I was 18 years old. Which isn't that long away since I will be turning 18 September, 13th 2011. I love my grandmother very much, but the things that she says to me has drove me away and I cannot stand it anymore.
My mother has visitation rights already that my grandmother has been violating. My mother hasn't been able to see me since I was 7 years old because my grandmother has not been letting her. I think its so stupid that I cannot just go live with my Mother. She said the only way that i could is if I was 18 or if She could transfer rights over to my mother.
I am 17 years old and I think its stupid that I can't just go live with her. I don't know what to do about this, neither does my mother. We both think that it is pointless to go back to court for this. Too me I think it's a waste of time and money. I just need help and advice. I just have a few questions.
1. Is there anyway that we can avoid going back to court over something like this?
2. What can I do?
3. Should I just go and try to get emancipated? (Even though it's a waste of money and time)
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and I hope that I can get some really good replys and answers.
From,
~Tiffany~
Things in my house have not been easy for me. I have an older sister who is 18 and is very successful. She makes good grades, she is very smart, and also goes to LSU Collage. Me on the other hand has not been so gifted in school. Which makes my grandmother really mad. She yells at me and tells me all the time that I need to be more like my sister. Which honestly makes me very upset. We are always fighting over stupid little things for as long as I could remember. I believe some things that she has told me is emotional abuse. (Ex: "Your so stupid" , "You will never go anywheres in life", "You will end up in jail before you are even 18" ... Etc.)
Recently, for the past few months I got in touch with my birth mother. Just to ask about why she didn't want me. Since that was the story I was told. I just wanted some answers. What she told me surprised me a lot.
Well, She told me everything that happened and how she loves me very much. She has told me multiply times if I want to go live with her then I can. One point the fighting at my house got extremely bad. To the point that I want to move out of this house. She told me that I CANNOT move out of this house until I was 18 years old. Which isn't that long away since I will be turning 18 September, 13th 2011. I love my grandmother very much, but the things that she says to me has drove me away and I cannot stand it anymore.
My mother has visitation rights already that my grandmother has been violating. My mother hasn't been able to see me since I was 7 years old because my grandmother has not been letting her. I think its so stupid that I cannot just go live with my Mother. She said the only way that i could is if I was 18 or if She could transfer rights over to my mother.
I am 17 years old and I think its stupid that I can't just go live with her. I don't know what to do about this, neither does my mother. We both think that it is pointless to go back to court for this. Too me I think it's a waste of time and money. I just need help and advice. I just have a few questions.
1. Is there anyway that we can avoid going back to court over something like this?
2. What can I do?
3. Should I just go and try to get emancipated? (Even though it's a waste of money and time)
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and I hope that I can get some really good replys and answers.
From,
~Tiffany~
