CComerford
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My son is 10. He has adhd, Odd, conduct and mood disorder. Joint physical legal non custodian father was released three months ago for aggregate assault felony, served three years. I've had family involved in therapy for 3 years and attended parenting classes for disorders in children. My son has been in inpatient treatment twice, had many school and bus issues, but had reached a stable point. After visits with father resumed his grades fell and behavior declined. His father took the children places, bought expensive gifts, ate out every meal, allow violent video games to be played, belittled my rules and beliefs, and laughed that I wasn't around to rule them. After their last visit, my son set my home on fire with my family inside. He admitted to it the day after and stated that he wanted to move to his dad's and I wouldn't let him, no house to live with me in so he would have to move. His reason was because his dad let's him do more things and gives him more. He has no remorse and doesn't feel that he was wrong because he wants to go. Since he has admit this, he is a different child from ever before, he is rude, disrespectful, laughs at me, calls me trash, calls me a liar, he lies constantly, steals, made his teacher cry, is never wrong, he is completely out of control. He has to leave my home for treatment, I can't risk what he may do next. His father is refusing consent of mental treatment that his therapist has recommended. He says he can help home, psychiatrist just want money, that he just needs some attention and freedom! That im too strict and have too many kids to give him enough love. He has made threats of consequences if I do accomplish this. He is getting a lawyer. I am doing all the preparing I can to save my baby and help him. Problem is, he needs help NOW, custody modification takes time. I can't afford a lawyer like the father can. I asked him to see a mediator and cordially plan together the tight thing to do but he refused. He says he'll get him a therapist there too but his present therapist has said that he was denied for several programs due to the danger of other patients and staff and she also has relinguished her services until stability is reached due to the advanced need of therapy, I believe he will be unable to find services and he will undermine any advice given. He suffers from the same issues as my son.
I'll stop now, sorry. Does anyone have any advice on what immediate action I can take? I appreciate any insight to this desperation. I want my precious, loving, out going, son back and I don't ever want my ability to pick him up when he falls to be given away.
I'll stop now, sorry. Does anyone have any advice on what immediate action I can take? I appreciate any insight to this desperation. I want my precious, loving, out going, son back and I don't ever want my ability to pick him up when he falls to be given away.
