Intent to relocate

[Stephanie050683]

Intent to relocate.

I have been offered a job in Florida in a medical clinic. I live in Indiana right now. I have filed my intent to relocate and my kid's father disputed it and we have to go to court. He also put on the papers that I am not allowing him to see the kids right now. I have been calling him and everyone else to get a hold of him for the past 3 months and he has never returned my calls. He finally got the kids this weekend. He has been missing a lot of visitations with the kids in the last almost 2 years. He gets them every other weekend and on holidays. I feel that even if I move he will be seeing the kids the same amount of time that he is seeing them now. He has done nothing good for the kids. He keeps threatening me. The last one happened last week when he told me that my face would get deformed if I did not shut my mouth. All I kept asking him was when he was going to see the kids. This was all done by emails because he was not answering my phone calls. He keeps lying. His girlfriend says that they do not live together. Which I know for fact they do. They have no electric right now. Which I will not allow my kids to be in that kind of living. Do I have a good chance at getting approved to relocate or am I just wasting my time? Please help. Any help will do. I want to move by next summer. This is when I will graduate from college. I have tried to better myself and he has done nothing. He stated that I will not let him see the kids if I moved. He also stated that he has no transportation, which I knew, so I even offered to bring the kids to him and pick them up. He is 33 years old and does not own a drivers license. This is his choice. He says that he can not pass the written test. Which he has not tried in over 10 years. So I feel that this is not my fault that he can not provide transportation. With me not wanting to leave until next summer, I feel that gives him enough time to get his priorities in order. He is a dishwasher and has never had any other job. He does pay child support. ($63.00 a week for 3 kids) I am trying to pursue a better life and he is trying to stop me from doing this. I also have a lot of family in Florida and it was where I was born. I have always planned to go back. Thanks for your help.

 

[army judge]

No, you're not wasting your time.
You do need to stick only to the facts. You picked this man to breed you. You're stuck with that choice. He had as much ambition then, as he has now. He was as dumb then, as he is now. Stay away from that type of talk. The court will make it's own assessments.

So, make your case as to why this is better for your kids, not you; the kids!


Family, better income, better paying job, better home, better health care, better schools, better food, support of extended family, etc...

Be prepared for you to pay transportation to send the kids to visit dad. The parent that moves is usually required to pay for that expense.

 

[Stephanie050683]

Thanks

I will do that. I have never told the judge that he was a bad parent or any of his wrong doings. I am not sure exactly what I plan to say. All I know is what I feel is right and I know that this move would make a huge difference in our lives. I am not trying to take the kids away from their father but I am trying to make a better life for them. I have offered to provide the transportation and he denied it. The place I live now, the schools are not that good, the town is not at all good looking, the jobs are terrible and hard to come by. I planned the move to Orlando Florida because of the job offer and family. There I will have more support and the kids can be around more of their family. I have family there that are willing to help me in any way they can. The place is perfect. It is the kind of place I would love my kids to move and be raised in. There are also so much more available to the kids there then here. Thanks again for your support. I am in the middle of finding out how to get phone records without getting a lawyer. I can not afford one right now so it is up to me. I have to find forms and then turn them in. Thanks again.