interference of custody

[1234more]

my ex is making me out to be the bad parent when I won't take our son to games or practice his Dad scheduled them on my time. for the past two years i have attended every game and practice including the one on my time, and as of today i have only missed 2 practices, but now i have asked my ex to give me extra time to make up for the interruption during my day. it ruins our weekends and the only day i have with our son during the week. i do not object to our son in sports i do how ever dislike the fact that i am losing valued time with our son. what can I do?

I have tried Reasoning with him to no avail, I've also tried to compromise with him, he just tells me I am only hurting our son by not taking him to these practices or games. he had also moved 44 miles away from me making it that more difficult for me.

 

[army judge]

Does his move of 44 miles violate the distance set firth in the order? If so, take him to court and tell the judge. If not, oh well.

As far as usurping your time, just say NO.


Your time is your time, not his.

But, if your child wants to do sports on your time, isn't it about what the child wants and not what you want?

 

[1234more]

Thank you for replying!

The orders do not state anything about moving other than letting the parent know where. As of right now, I won't go to practice or games during my time if it upsets our sons routine at my home, other than that I do take our son if he wants to go, most of the time he does not care as much as his father says. Now our son wants to go to get a trophy.

the point is that he has primary custody and what little time I have is reduce to rubble by my ex's interference. it is a lose/lose for me, if i go my weekend has to be rearranged, if I don't go I'm the selfish parent. besides the only reason why he signed him up for this sport is because his stepbrother could be on the same team and they don't have to run around,and our son had expressed a desire to participate in a different sport. I was just hoping I could do something about it other than just deal with it.

again thank you for your post!

 

[army judge]

Madam, you can do something about his continuous, repetitive practice of cheating you out of your time with your son.

Take his cheating, abusive derrière into court.

Tell the judge.

Let the judge decide what can and will be done.

You aren't helpless.

You do have an option.

If this bothers you, use your options.

 

[1234more]

Thank you, I will once I find money to retain a lawyer.

I read your profile, and it says you were a Judge in the army, hints the name, I was wondering what would happen to a soldier if he had claimed a dependent not having a dependent? and has been out since 2004?

 

[army judge]

Thank you, I will once I find money to retain a lawyer.

I read your profile, and it says you were a Judge in the army, hints the name, I was wondering what would happen to a soldier if he had claimed a dependent not having a dependent? and has been out since 2004?

If someone did what you said and they were still in the army, they could be tried for violating provisions of the UCMJ. They could end up in prison, kicked out of the army, and with a bad discharge. They'd also have to repay Uncle Sam.

Now, if this person were out of the army, the FBI could come calling. They'd be tried as a civilian or could be recalled to active duty to be tried by the military.

It all depends on how loud someone screamed and who they screamed to and what rank the perso held or holds.

 

[1234more]

could you tell me how to scream loud to the right person? I'd be more than willing to tell you the whole story.

Thank you so much for all the helpful information!

 

[army judge]

Okay, is this person still in the army?

If so, tell his commander or 1SG.

But, I'll listen. Do tell.

Don't get yourself in trouble.

 

[1234more]

This person is not in the military any more, he wasn't in the army but was in the Marine corps. so I do not know if that would make a difference. he was released in 2004, This person is my ex.

The short story is:

when I first met my ex he had told me he had a four year old son. we later married and got pregnant (failed pregnancy), while I was pregnant I had talked to his mother and asked her why he never liked talking about his son, Collin. she told me that was not his son that it was his fathers son, his younger half brother. I confronted him about this and he told me he didn't tell me because he was afraid too, and that he had claimed Collin as a dependent and could get in trouble for it.

once we went to court to fight over our son I had brought this fact up along with others to show the judge his character and how often he lies about everything. he denied that he had ever told me such a thing and played me off as a crazy person making things up. later in court I came across a home video of us before we were married. stating that he had claimed he had a son to me. nothing, no one cared about his lies.

I have consider the fact that he might have lied about claiming Collin as a dependent, since he has lied since day one.

I am preparing for the next time in court and I would like to have this to strengthen my case, if it is possible.

this man is doing everything to hinder my relationship with our son. our son loves me and I Love him more than anything, I'm so tired of him using our son as a pawn to hurt me for breaking up with him.

Our son thought it would be a good idea to tell his father he was in heaven so he could live with me forever. he did say this in a child-like way but it is still wrong on all levels that a child would be okay with there father thinking they were dead.

everything this man does is with a goal in mind. he always takes, and never gives unless there is a string attached. he is also hung up on status, being the "primary custodial parent" is only important to him because of the title and the power that comes with, the ability to control our son and make me do what he wants just to have any extra time with him.

this doesn't even begin to scratch the surface!

whatever advice you have would be highly appreciated.

and I'll try not to get in trouble !

again Thank you!

 

[army judge]

Well, you're right, he could have lied about receiving money for his dad's child.

You'll need proof.

It's been 7 years.

That'll be hard to discover.

I suggest you hire a lawyer and get your son back.

How did he get custody anyway?

Were you ever married?

It is very unusual for a guy to get custody of a child, married or not. Does he have lots of money? Are his people wealthy?


You need a lawyer. You need to fight for custody of the child you carried and birthed!

 

[1234more]

when I am able to send private messages I'll tell you that story! Thank you!