brittbrunink
New Member
Hello,
I share custody with my ex husband of our daughter who is 6. She started Kindergarten last year. She is with me one week, him the next, then back to me etc. Her father's girlfriend (who has been around since she our daughter turned 2) does a good job with taking care of her, but I think the back and forth is too much for a child to experience while in school. Also, she goes to school of choice - a school not in either of our jurisdictions - but I live 40 minutes away (he lives 10 minutes away). There was no settlement on how far away we can live from eachother as long as we are in state and each gets the child 50/50 at our discretion.
The divorce agreement covered custody, as he had a lawyer and I did not. I was emotionally abused by him but did not realize it until only 2 years ago, well after our divorce when I finally "came to". He convinced me that I should split custody and did not deserve to have our daughter full time, along with other things such as I didn't deserve money for the sale of our house, etc. even though he was the one who had the affair.
I believe it is in our daughter's best interest to be in the home of the mother during the school week (and also every other weekend) who helps her with homework, is concerned with her emotional, academic, personal and artistic growth, wants her in extra curricular activities (she is in karate now, he does not pay for it nor does he come to practices). I feel as though I have to make up for the damage he does to her emotionally.
I just don't know what to do because he has money and will be given money by his boss like he did for our divorce and by his father. I don't have those resources, and I know that he will come at me from every angle just to prove he can, not because he actually is concerned with what's best for our daughter, but he is concerned with what it looks like on the outside. Any Advice?
I share custody with my ex husband of our daughter who is 6. She started Kindergarten last year. She is with me one week, him the next, then back to me etc. Her father's girlfriend (who has been around since she our daughter turned 2) does a good job with taking care of her, but I think the back and forth is too much for a child to experience while in school. Also, she goes to school of choice - a school not in either of our jurisdictions - but I live 40 minutes away (he lives 10 minutes away). There was no settlement on how far away we can live from eachother as long as we are in state and each gets the child 50/50 at our discretion.
The divorce agreement covered custody, as he had a lawyer and I did not. I was emotionally abused by him but did not realize it until only 2 years ago, well after our divorce when I finally "came to". He convinced me that I should split custody and did not deserve to have our daughter full time, along with other things such as I didn't deserve money for the sale of our house, etc. even though he was the one who had the affair.
I believe it is in our daughter's best interest to be in the home of the mother during the school week (and also every other weekend) who helps her with homework, is concerned with her emotional, academic, personal and artistic growth, wants her in extra curricular activities (she is in karate now, he does not pay for it nor does he come to practices). I feel as though I have to make up for the damage he does to her emotionally.
I just don't know what to do because he has money and will be given money by his boss like he did for our divorce and by his father. I don't have those resources, and I know that he will come at me from every angle just to prove he can, not because he actually is concerned with what's best for our daughter, but he is concerned with what it looks like on the outside. Any Advice?
