firehawk2009
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Firstly, I want to thank the great valuable advice that people have given me from here recently. it has helped alot and made me think of a few things. my heart goes out to you.
Just when things couldnt get any worse they do.
Basically my unfortunate ex now has got me in alot of trouble with the law.
(do a search on "Wrongly accused, very worried ")
being charged with common assault (no battery) and sexual assault is such a horrific ordeal.
had a meeting (at court) with the solicitor (whose firm I dont really want but giving them a chance I guess after everything) and basically more "evidence" was brought forward in the "Advanced disclosure" of papers by the prosecutor.
2 people who did not make a statement originally, made a statement 2/3 weeks AFTER this alleged incident.
one of the people a week later ammended the statement.
makes me wonder why.
The same person starts off saying things like "I was never sure of him, was wary and didnt like him much".... which is stupid considering the fact that I tried my utmost best to engage with my ex's friends but also helped her in a big incident that had happened, i put myself on the line and got racist abuse hurled at me whilst protecting/defending HER SON, and also my ex's property! (it was reported)
all the statements put together, are inconsistant but have some similarities.
in the end, no one saw what happened but only me and my ex (the ex is the accuser here)
Even more worried and scared than before, i basically passed out today going over and over things.
I dont know how to get a defence together. Sure, I have written some of my proof of evidence document with the sol but still don't think that there is anything solid there but my own version of events.
it seems that the prosecutor's case is stronger (even though admittedly weak by the solicitor and myself) because of the statements given.
I also have something that may help me in my favour (apart from a clean record) which are some emails, especially 1 day prior to this incident where she "loves me" "wants me" and "come round tomorrow".
Now, I dont think this can be used as evidence even though she (the ex) states in her statement that the relationship ended over a month ago prior to the incident!
as you can maybe sense, my mind is all over the place, worried, sick, stressed, distressed and also mourning her some what (as its ended and what a wicked way to end it).
I do think she was using me for the money (I bailed her out for an eviction, helped her with some finances and so on but also supported her ALOT and always asked how the relationship was for her, anything that can be done differently or better and so on), but also just because it was "convenient" for her. I never thought she would ever ever be the one to do this, given that she is divorced from an abusive ex husband, and a string of "longish" failure of relationships....
sorry, i just dont know what to do or say, and just feel so drained whilst she must be out there with someone else already which is sick.
Now, the main question and point here is, how can I prove I didnt do what she said (which was that I pushed her behind the kitchen door, groped her breasts and rubbed her on the sides and kissed her on the back all on top of the clothes). (sorry, just cannot believe this. so hard to take it in as this is not my character or nature, and she knows it!)
how about them trying to prove I did it when it really is a she said/he said thing?
the only thing I can think about them is "we have these statements here, but also you were told to leave but you didnt" - oh but I did try to leave 2 times before but she stopped me and I also left in the end on my own account!
:-/
Just when things couldnt get any worse they do.
Basically my unfortunate ex now has got me in alot of trouble with the law.
(do a search on "Wrongly accused, very worried ")
being charged with common assault (no battery) and sexual assault is such a horrific ordeal.
had a meeting (at court) with the solicitor (whose firm I dont really want but giving them a chance I guess after everything) and basically more "evidence" was brought forward in the "Advanced disclosure" of papers by the prosecutor.
2 people who did not make a statement originally, made a statement 2/3 weeks AFTER this alleged incident.
one of the people a week later ammended the statement.
makes me wonder why.
The same person starts off saying things like "I was never sure of him, was wary and didnt like him much".... which is stupid considering the fact that I tried my utmost best to engage with my ex's friends but also helped her in a big incident that had happened, i put myself on the line and got racist abuse hurled at me whilst protecting/defending HER SON, and also my ex's property! (it was reported)
all the statements put together, are inconsistant but have some similarities.
in the end, no one saw what happened but only me and my ex (the ex is the accuser here)
Even more worried and scared than before, i basically passed out today going over and over things.
I dont know how to get a defence together. Sure, I have written some of my proof of evidence document with the sol but still don't think that there is anything solid there but my own version of events.
it seems that the prosecutor's case is stronger (even though admittedly weak by the solicitor and myself) because of the statements given.
I also have something that may help me in my favour (apart from a clean record) which are some emails, especially 1 day prior to this incident where she "loves me" "wants me" and "come round tomorrow".
Now, I dont think this can be used as evidence even though she (the ex) states in her statement that the relationship ended over a month ago prior to the incident!
as you can maybe sense, my mind is all over the place, worried, sick, stressed, distressed and also mourning her some what (as its ended and what a wicked way to end it).
I do think she was using me for the money (I bailed her out for an eviction, helped her with some finances and so on but also supported her ALOT and always asked how the relationship was for her, anything that can be done differently or better and so on), but also just because it was "convenient" for her. I never thought she would ever ever be the one to do this, given that she is divorced from an abusive ex husband, and a string of "longish" failure of relationships....
sorry, i just dont know what to do or say, and just feel so drained whilst she must be out there with someone else already which is sick.
Now, the main question and point here is, how can I prove I didnt do what she said (which was that I pushed her behind the kitchen door, groped her breasts and rubbed her on the sides and kissed her on the back all on top of the clothes). (sorry, just cannot believe this. so hard to take it in as this is not my character or nature, and she knows it!)
how about them trying to prove I did it when it really is a she said/he said thing?
the only thing I can think about them is "we have these statements here, but also you were told to leave but you didnt" - oh but I did try to leave 2 times before but she stopped me and I also left in the end on my own account!
:-/
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